Gay Guy (from Dream Central)

THE DREAM
I was sitting in a hotel which probably was serena Faisalabad, pakistan I was about to check in but the man at reception asked me to wait for some reason And i listen to him and go to the waiting area and sit down. there where i am sitting, a gay looking guy comes and sits. now if it was a guy or gur i am not quite sure of. it was something in the middle of the two sexes. even in the dream I wanted to ask whether she is a she or a he but then I stopped. she/he started conversing on the phone and was telling somebody that he has cheated somebody off 17 lakhs dress design which lets me to assume that it was a designer. after the Phone he continuously spoke to me which let me to ask him/her if he always likes talking as much as he was talking now or is there something special today? She/he said sorry I dint hear you and then I asked again do you always talk as much as you are talking now? And the answer was a simple yes. The most interesting thing in the dream came after that when I picked up the newspaper on the table to read to pass time and I realized it was Khaleej Times of Dubai, and it was od 13th march 1980. that’s when I woke up.

THE INTERPRETATION

Please note: the full interp does not appear on Dream Central (sleeps.com) because I went over 3,000 characters too long. I had to shorten it considerably just to post it on the board there. Sometimes I get so much out of a dream that I don't stop until I'm not getting any more energy from it, even though a dream isn't very long. Welcome to all the Dream Central Dreamers who have come to see the full interp. Please enjoy and post any questions or comments you like. See you on the Dream Board. ~Charlotte

Here goes...

Hi, My name is Charlotte. I would like to break down your dream for you in a way that might help you understand its hidden message. I operate on a deeply psychological/spiritual level and connect the pieces of the dream to illustrate a story that will correlate to the events in your waking life. This dream seems to be about your several situations, but I will let you tell me how the symbols and events connect to your real life situation. I did the interp based on the assumption that you had this dream recently.

Before I begin I would like to offer some basic symbology which plays a primary role in your dream.

People in dreams represent many different aspects of ourselves. We are all comprised of many facets that make up our personalities…from our masculine/feminine qualities to the expressions of our inner child.

Men represent the assertive, aggressive, strong side of self…rationality, practicality, individuality, intellect, consciousness, will…that which penetrates or understands. Men symbolize our Thinking Self, or the side of us in a situation which is operating on mental energy and being driven to make decisions based on the thought process rather than the emotional process. Corresponding events in the dream images could point to masculine qualities such as strength, courage, determination, virility and the desire to “provide” for others. Negative expressions of the male characteristics include competitiveness, egotism, control, a lust for power and volatile aggression (physical fighting).

Women represent the creative-intuitive, receptive, emotional side of self and are often associated with feelings of relatedness and a desire to “nurture” others. Women are ruled by feelings and, often, depict the possessive side of our psyche. Women in dreams represent that we are being driven by our emotions in a situation, rather than utilizing mental processes to think the situation through. Women symbolize our Emotional Self. Some dream images may reveal a need for or an overabundance of compassion and tenderness, sensitivity, insecurity or jealousy. Negative expressions of the female characteristics include vanity, vindictiveness, gossiping or cattiness (emotional warfare).

Homosexuals in dreams do not necessarily represent your sexual nature unless you are in a same-sex relationship and the dream deals with your personal situation. In general, however, the presence of a homosexual (male or female) in a dream could indicate that both male and female characteristics are integrated in your thought processes, i.e. a mixture of emotion with thought, whether in or out of balance in the blending.

Let’s begin with the breakdown:

I was sitting in a hotel which probably was serena Faisalabad, pakistan I was about to check in but the man at reception asked me to wait for some reason And i listen to him and go to the waiting area and sit down.

You were in a hotel. Hotels represent a temporary or transitional (residence) or state of mind. This may be associated with a current or past situation where a transition was necessary, or that its existence in your subconscious mind has triggered a new transition in the present. Often, health issues can be present when you see a hotel in a dream, as you transition from one stage of health to another. The surrounding symbology lends more to the actual personal meaning but, in either case, there is a transitory learning phase with long term affects on a larger, personal situation (i.e. Love Life vs. a Date). You suspect that you know this hotel which tells me you are vaguely familiar with whatever personal situation the dream is addressing, perhaps having “been here before.”

You were about to check in and there is a man at the front desk. The first person we encounter is a male, rather than a female, and this person asks you to “wait” but does not explain the reason why you must. This man’s “role” is to “accept” guests and provide with them the “key” to their situation, which is comfortable lodging that will temporarily, but hopefully, feel like or act as home. This to me says that you may be impatient waiting for something to happen or manifest in your life, such as an upward career move, a relationship or the beginning of a new project. The rest of the dream will assist us in determining which it is. YOU in the dream do not question the reason for having to wait, but do as you are asked and take a seat in the “waiting area.”

there where i am sitting, a gay looking guy comes and sits. now if it was a guy or gur i am not quite sure of. it was something in the middle of the two sexes. even in the dream I wanted to ask whether she is a she or a he but then I stopped.

If we revisit the symbology I gave you in the beginning, this person represents how you are responding to your situation. I would say this person represents a blending of your thought and emotional processes. For instance, you cannot tell which characteristic is dominant…the male (thought) or female (emotion). Nothing about the “surface” of this person helps you determine what’s on the inside or “beneath it all” if that makes sense. How do you make “heads or tails” of the situation. This is interesting, but I’ll get back to this.

It could be that you are pushing forward with all of your determination and assertiveness, but feel that your emotions may be too close to the surface in your situation. You want to ask a clarifying question to satisfy your own curiosity, but you stifle yourself and do not. This is significant in contrast to the behavior of this gentleman. Somewhere in your life you want to communicate a desire, question or goal, but you are not; you merely observe your surroundings to see what happens rather than take action (communicate).

Your new friend, who also represents aspects of you, your behaviors and your subconscious thought processes, seems to have no trouble doing what you just cut yourself off from doing – communicating and making yourself be heard…

she/he started conversing on the phone and was telling somebody that he has cheated somebody off 17 lakhs dress design which lets me to assume that it was a designer. after the Phone he continuously spoke to me which let me to ask him/her if he always likes talking as much as he was talking now or is there something special today? She/he said sorry I dint hear you and then I asked again do you always talk as much as you are talking now? And the answer was a simple yes.

Telephones are an instrument for communication, whether between aspects of ourselves or between us and those around us (family, friends, lovers, bosses). They tell us that we either do this too much or not enough. He/she tells the person at the end of the line that he has “cheated” someone out of a dress design. I’m sorry I do not know what “17 lakhs” means…whether it is an expensive clothing line or related to money. In either case, if it’s the number 17, the number 1 represents independence and active new beginnings, while the 7 represents karma, perfection, spiritual goals, etc. It could also point to the days of the week, the time period in which your situation began or could end (7 days/weeks/months ago or it could take 7 days/weeks/months to be resolved). This is speculation, really, but I would like to give you as much as possible to work with. Only you know what truly fits. In other interpretations I’ve performed, I’ve found it to mean that in the dreamer’s mind, there is a high price to pay for knowledge and wisdom (success). The man in the dream has stolen someone’s “key” to “success.” Remember that you tried to check in, but the other man did not give you the key you anticipated. This man goes about things the wrong way while you are trying to be patient.

After he finishes his conversation, he speaks to you continuously. You ask if there is a special reason but he does not “hear” you. You ask again and he answers quite frankly. “Yes,” he says. Again, this individual offers no explanation, the second time in this dream that this happens. Sometimes we just need to accept things in life whether or not we understand the situation or why it happened. This to me feels like you are trying to get a message through to someone, but you are feeling stifled and overpowered and cannot turn the situation around in your favor, whether you are trying to make something happen or prevent a situation from deteriorating further. Only you can say which area of your life this points to, but you assume he is a designer, which is also what you are, according to your profile. In this case, it could point to actual design work, your career or your desire to “design” your life in such a way that you will be happy. Make sense?

The most interesting thing in the dream came after that when I picked up the newspaper on the table to read to pass time and I realized it was Khaleej Times of Dubai, and it was od 13th march 1980. that’s when I woke up.

At the end of your dream we again see a sequence of numbers, but like you say, the interesting thing is that you pick up a newspaper. A newspaper is ALSO an instrument for Communication.

Newspapers represent, among your own personal symbology (do you read the paper daily, weekly or not at all and why?), that which is of general or everyday interest (such as family, a job or relationship). They are a source of information, insight or opinion and could represent a special message. They are designed to keep you apprised of the “outside world” – not the one in your mind. The date on the paper is 13. 1=independence (again) and 3=communication (again), creativity, great strength, synthesis and incorporation into the whole (as it blends the numbers 1 and 2). Does that strike a chord with you? Do you see how all of these separate and confusing symbols connect in such as way as to reinforce the other in its message?

A thought that occurred to me is that you may have recently graduated from college or a learning institution and are presently out into the real world trying to make a mark for yourself and wondering where the shortcuts are. I could be wrong…it was just an image in my mind. Do you need to reach out more and ask for what you want?

Let’s continue. March is the 3rd month…again the number 3. But the year is 1980, two years before you were born (your profile says 1982). I will break down the numbers but this stands out so here is some Food for Thought: Did something significant happen between your parents in 1980 (such as marriage, a miscarriage, the death of a grandparent, etc.? Is something similar to these situations happening in your life that make you want to step back, let time pass, and wait for the emotions to cease talking on their own?) I ask this because you pick up the paper to “pass the time.” Two years pass between the date of the paper and the year you are brought into this world. There could be something significant in the past two years that are giving you “pause” – hence the hotel, which takes us back to the beginning.

In this dream you have two symbols representing how you are thinking this through. One of you controls the situation by making you wait and not react. The other talks and talks and makes you listen against your will. This feels to me like a little argument going on in your mind as to what you should do. Consciousness vs. Willful Determination. There are numbers reinforcing themselves, and there are communication devices at your disposal, but you don’t take a pointed interest in either (again, you were not seeking specific information (insight) in the paper, you were merely “keeping occupied” until such time as you would be given the “key” to your “room” higher consciousness, meanwhile observing this talkative individual who you cannot even determine their gender based on their “outward appearance” (appearance of the situation vs. the truth of the situation).

By the way 1980 broken down is: 1=new beginnings, 9=endings, 8=emotional balance in a situation and links between the past and the future (transition/hotel) and 0=higher knowledge and the sum of all there is. 1+9+8+0 = 18, which total 9. Again, the end of one phase and the beginning of the new (transitions).

Interesting.

Dreams like this can pop up in the middle of a situation or merely as your mind works through a situation that has passed in reality, but continues to play out in your subconscious mind. Whether the major concern is family, career or a romantic relationship, I certainly hope this information helps you determine the message that your subconscious mind is trying to get through to you. I have my guess that it pertains to two situations that overlapped over the past two years but I will let you tell me what rings true for you.

I look forward to your thoughts. If you need clarification on anything, please let me know. I know this is quite long and in-depth, but this is how I get to the “truth” that the dream reveals...in the hopes that you will find the "key."

Regards,

~Charlotte.

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