Spiritual Services and Classes with Charlotte Spicer

Thank you to all commentors!

2010-02-09T13:47:00.007-05:00

Thanks for visiting! I'm glad the information here has helped so many. Thank you all for your comments and emails. I've been pretty overwhelmed with work and life in general this past year but hope to put up more information soon. In the meantime, please recommend me to your friends, family and associates!

Right now I'm focused on Readings and conducting classes and Guided Meditation online via Live Video Feed! You'll be able to view lectures on a variety of topics from the comfort of your own home. We'll also have Dream Interpretation, so you'll be able to send me your questions that I will answer Live! If you'd like to participate, sign up at www.Facebook.com/SpiritualInsights. I'll be making some special announcements soon!

I hope to meet many of you to discuss your dreams further. Please visit the Spiritual Insights Page soon! We're over 1,000 luminous souls strong!

Love and Light,
~Char.

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2010-02-09T12:59:00.003-05:00

Thank you for visiting my dream interpretation archive blog. If you reside in Florida and would like to join a group of like-minded people to discuss dreams, miracles and a variety of metaphysical topics, please visit www.meetup.com/CharlotteSpicer for details. We meet weekly in Orlando and monthly in Ocala, and I will be traveling around Florida later this year. I look forward to meeting you.

~Char.

Gay Guy (from Dream Central)

2007-11-14T23:32:00.000-05:00

THE DREAM
I was sitting in a hotel which probably was serena Faisalabad, pakistan I was about to check in but the man at reception asked me to wait for some reason And i listen to him and go to the waiting area and sit down. there where i am sitting, a gay looking guy comes and sits. now if it was a guy or gur i am not quite sure of. it was something in the middle of the two sexes. even in the dream I wanted to ask whether she is a she or a he but then I stopped. she/he started conversing on the phone and was telling somebody that he has cheated somebody off 17 lakhs dress design which lets me to assume that it was a designer. after the Phone he continuously spoke to me which let me to ask him/her if he always likes talking as much as he was talking now or is there something special today? She/he said sorry I dint hear you and then I asked again do you always talk as much as you are talking now? And the answer was a simple yes. The most interesting thing in the dream came after that when I picked up the newspaper on the table to read to pass time and I realized it was Khaleej Times of Dubai, and it was od 13th march 1980. that’s when I woke up.

THE INTERPRETATION

Please note: the full interp does not appear on Dream Central (sleeps.com) because I went over 3,000 characters too long. I had to shorten it considerably just to post it on the board there. Sometimes I get so much out of a dream that I don't stop until I'm not getting any more energy from it, even though a dream isn't very long. Welcome to all the Dream Central Dreamers who have come to see the full interp. Please enjoy and post any questions or comments you like. See you on the Dream Board. ~Charlotte

Here goes...

Hi, My name is Charlotte. I would like to break down your dream for you in a way that might help you understand its hidden message. I operate on a deeply psychological/spiritual level and connect the pieces of the dream to illustrate a story that will correlate to the events in your waking life. This dream seems to be about your several situations, but I will let you tell me how the symbols and events connect to your real life situation. I did the interp based on the assumption that you had this dream recently.

Before I begin I would like to offer some basic symbology which plays a primary role in your dream.

People in dreams represent many different aspects of ourselves. We are all comprised of many facets that make up our personalities…from our masculine/feminine qualities to the expressions of our inner child.

Men represent the assertive, aggressive, strong side of self…rationality, practicality, individuality, intellect, consciousness, will…that which penetrates or understands. Men symbolize our Thinking Self, or the side of us in a situation which is operating on mental energy and being driven to make decisions based on the thought process rather than the emotional process. Corresponding events in the dream images could point to masculine qualities such as strength, courage, determination, virility and the desire to “provide” for others. Negative expressions of the male characteristics include competitiveness, egotism, control, a lust for power and volatile aggression (physical fighting).

Women represent the creative-intuitive, receptive, emotional side of self and are often associated with feelings of relatedness and a desire to “nurture” others. Women are ruled by feelings and, often, depict the possessive side of our psyche. Women in dreams represent that we are being driven by our emotions in a situation, rather than utilizing mental processes to think the situation through. Women symbolize our Emotional Self. Some dream images may reveal a need for or an overabundance of compassion and tenderness, sensitivity, insecurity or jealousy. Negative expressions of the female characteristics include vanity, vindictiveness, gossiping or cattiness (emotional warfare).

Homosexuals in dreams do not necessarily represent your sexual nature unless you are in a same-sex relationship and the dream deals with your personal situation. In general, however, the presence of a homosexual (male or female) in a dream could indicate that both male and female characteristics are integrated in your thought processes, i.e. a mixture of emotion with thought, whether in or out of balance in the blending.

Let’s begin with the breakdown:

I was sitting in a hotel which probably was serena Faisalabad, pakistan I was about to check in but the man at reception asked me to wait for some reason And i listen to him and go to the waiting area and sit down.

You were in a hotel. Hotels represent a temporary or transitional (residence) or state of mind. This may be associated with a current or past situation where a transition was necessary, or that its existence in your subconscious mind has triggered a new transition in the present. Often, health issues can be present when you see a hotel in a dream, as you transition from one stage of health to another. The surrounding symbology lends more to the actual personal meaning but, in either case, there is a transitory learning phase with long term affects on a larger, personal situation (i.e. Love Life vs. a Date). You suspect that you know this hotel which tells me you are vaguely familiar with whatever personal situation the dream is addressing, perhaps having “been here before.”

You were about to check in and there is a man at the front desk. The first person we encounter is a male, rather than a female, and this person asks you to “wait” but does not explain the reason why you must. This man’s “role” is to “accept” guests and provide with them the “key” to their situation, which is comfortable lodging that will temporarily, but hopefully, feel like or act as home. This to me says that you may be impatient waiting for something to happen or manifest in your life, such as an upward career move, a relationship or the beginning of a new project. The rest of the dream will assist us in determining which it is. YOU in the dream do not question the reason for having to wait, but do as you are asked and take a seat in the “waiting area.”

there where i am sitting, a gay looking guy comes and sits. now if it was a guy or gur i am not quite sure of. it was something in the middle of the two sexes. even in the dream I wanted to ask whether she is a she or a he but then I stopped.

If we revisit the symbology I gave you in the beginning, this person represents how you are responding to your situation. I would say this person represents a blending of your thought and emotional processes. For instance, you cannot tell which characteristic is dominant…the male (thought) or female (emotion). Nothing about the “surface” of this person helps you determine what’s on the inside or “beneath it all” if that makes sense. How do you make “heads or tails” of the situation. This is interesting, but I’ll get back to this.

It could be that you are pushing forward with all of your determination and assertiveness, but feel that your emotions may be too close to the surface in your situation. You want to ask a clarifying question to satisfy your own curiosity, but you stifle yourself and do not. This is significant in contrast to the behavior of this gentleman. Somewhere in your life you want to communicate a desire, question or goal, but you are not; you merely observe your surroundings to see what happens rather than take action (communicate).

Your new friend, who also represents aspects of you, your behaviors and your subconscious thought processes, seems to have no trouble doing what you just cut yourself off from doing – communicating and making yourself be heard…

she/he started conversing on the phone and was telling somebody that he has cheated somebody off 17 lakhs dress design which lets me to assume that it was a designer. after the Phone he continuously spoke to me which let me to ask him/her if he always likes talking as much as he was talking now or is there something special today? She/he said sorry I dint hear you and then I asked again do you always talk as much as you are talking now? And the answer was a simple yes.

Telephones are an instrument for communication, whether between aspects of ourselves or between us and those around us (family, friends, lovers, bosses). They tell us that we either do this too much or not enough. He/she tells the person at the end of the line that he has “cheated” someone out of a dress design. I’m sorry I do not know what “17 lakhs” means…whether it is an expensive clothing line or related to money. In either case, if it’s the number 17, the number 1 represents independence and active new beginnings, while the 7 represents karma, perfection, spiritual goals, etc. It could also point to the days of the week, the time period in which your situation began or could end (7 days/weeks/months ago or it could take 7 days/weeks/months to be resolved). This is speculation, really, but I would like to give you as much as possible to work with. Only you know what truly fits. In other interpretations I’ve performed, I’ve found it to mean that in the dreamer’s mind, there is a high price to pay for knowledge and wisdom (success). The man in the dream has stolen someone’s “key” to “success.” Remember that you tried to check in, but the other man did not give you the key you anticipated. This man goes about things the wrong way while you are trying to be patient.

After he finishes his conversation, he speaks to you continuously. You ask if there is a special reason but he does not “hear” you. You ask again and he answers quite frankly. “Yes,” he says. Again, this individual offers no explanation, the second time in this dream that this happens. Sometimes we just need to accept things in life whether or not we understand the situation or why it happened. This to me feels like you are trying to get a message through to someone, but you are feeling stifled and overpowered and cannot turn the situation around in your favor, whether you are trying to make something happen or prevent a situation from deteriorating further. Only you can say which area of your life this points to, but you assume he is a designer, which is also what you are, according to your profile. In this case, it could point to actual design work, your career or your desire to “design” your life in such a way that you will be happy. Make sense?

The most interesting thing in the dream came after that when I picked up the newspaper on the table to read to pass time and I realized it was Khaleej Times of Dubai, and it was od 13th march 1980. that’s when I woke up.

At the end of your dream we again see a sequence of numbers, but like you say, the interesting thing is that you pick up a newspaper. A newspaper is ALSO an instrument for Communication.

Newspapers represent, among your own personal symbology (do you read the paper daily, weekly or not at all and why?), that which is of general or everyday interest (such as family, a job or relationship). They are a source of information, insight or opinion and could represent a special message. They are designed to keep you apprised of the “outside world” – not the one in your mind. The date on the paper is 13. 1=independence (again) and 3=communication (again), creativity, great strength, synthesis and incorporation into the whole (as it blends the numbers 1 and 2). Does that strike a chord with you? Do you see how all of these separate and confusing symbols connect in such as way as to reinforce the other in its message?

A thought that occurred to me is that you may have recently graduated from college or a learning institution and are presently out into the real world trying to make a mark for yourself and wondering where the shortcuts are. I could be wrong…it was just an image in my mind. Do you need to reach out more and ask for what you want?

Let’s continue. March is the 3rd month…again the number 3. But the year is 1980, two years before you were born (your profile says 1982). I will break down the numbers but this stands out so here is some Food for Thought: Did something significant happen between your parents in 1980 (such as marriage, a miscarriage, the death of a grandparent, etc.? Is something similar to these situations happening in your life that make you want to step back, let time pass, and wait for the emotions to cease talking on their own?) I ask this because you pick up the paper to “pass the time.” Two years pass between the date of the paper and the year you are brought into this world. There could be something significant in the past two years that are giving you “pause” – hence the hotel, which takes us back to the beginning.

In this dream you have two symbols representing how you are thinking this through. One of you controls the situation by making you wait and not react. The other talks and talks and makes you listen against your will. This feels to me like a little argument going on in your mind as to what you should do. Consciousness vs. Willful Determination. There are numbers reinforcing themselves, and there are communication devices at your disposal, but you don’t take a pointed interest in either (again, you were not seeking specific information (insight) in the paper, you were merely “keeping occupied” until such time as you would be given the “key” to your “room” higher consciousness, meanwhile observing this talkative individual who you cannot even determine their gender based on their “outward appearance” (appearance of the situation vs. the truth of the situation).

By the way 1980 broken down is: 1=new beginnings, 9=endings, 8=emotional balance in a situation and links between the past and the future (transition/hotel) and 0=higher knowledge and the sum of all there is. 1+9+8+0 = 18, which total 9. Again, the end of one phase and the beginning of the new (transitions).

Interesting.

Dreams like this can pop up in the middle of a situation or merely as your mind works through a situation that has passed in reality, but continues to play out in your subconscious mind. Whether the major concern is family, career or a romantic relationship, I certainly hope this information helps you determine the message that your subconscious mind is trying to get through to you. I have my guess that it pertains to two situations that overlapped over the past two years but I will let you tell me what rings true for you.

I look forward to your thoughts. If you need clarification on anything, please let me know. I know this is quite long and in-depth, but this is how I get to the “truth” that the dream reveals...in the hopes that you will find the "key."

Regards,

~Charlotte.

AWAITING DREAMER'S REVIEW AND RESPONSE

Broken Teeth & Rocks In My Mouth

2007-11-14T19:57:00.000-05:00

THE DREAM
Hello,

Fact: I have a bad habit of grinding my teeth when I sleep since I was a child.

Dream: One afternoon I went to sleep and had a dream where:

I woke up and found that I chipped my top front teeth. I went to spit the grit out and sat on a chair pissed that I grinded my teeth so hard. A few seconds later, I felt more grits in my mouth. I went to look in the mirror and found that my top teeth was ok and looked at my bottom teeth.

All my teeth where ok and intact, but I had white stones comming from the bottom jaw between my lower lip and the gums. I spit the stones in the sink but they kept comming out as fast as I can spit it out.

I read most of the posting about teeth but got confused if this is a bad omen about death or a kind money blessing.

If you have any ideas about the meaning of this dream, I am open ears...

THE INTERPRETATION
Teeth are a combination Universal/Personal symbol. Teeth in dreams represent a variety of emotions, reactions and scenarios. While a common dream symbol universally to all people, dreams involving the loss of or damage to teeth are personal to the dreamer and largely misunderstood. Some cultural myths say that it means a death will occur. While I would agree that many teeth dreams accompany actual deaths and losses, it is difficult to declare each and every teeth dream to be of a prophetic nature. Because many dreams of loosing teeth point to “letting go” of a person, situation or thing, it is easy to attach these images to a theme of death. There is more to consider, however, in analyzing a dream.

Teeth also represent the power of words spoken (like gossip or arguments, sentiments, personal boundaries, praise, etc.), our ability and confidence in making decisions, our sense of personal power, our personal effectiveness and our ability to break ideas, experiences and situations down for analysis, assimilation, digestion and release (the process necessary for Growth both physically and spiritually). Losing them demonstrates our feelings of ineffectiveness in any of these categories or in a specific area of our lives.

Here is a listing of Physical and Spiritual Correlations pertaining to Teeth Symbology:

Breaking Down of Food=Breaking down of ideas/experiences for Psychological Analysis and Understanding.
Assimilation/absorption=Emotionally Integrating the concepts in order to heighten conscious awareness and grow as a human being.
Digestion=Acceptance of Change, Retaining the beneficial aspects of the experience and rejecting the unhealthy aspects as it works through our (belief) system.
Elimination/Physical Release=Psychological and Emotional Forgiveness of the person/situation for forcing you to learn this lesson as a means of growth; Letting go of residual emotions and resentments and reclaiming peace of mind. (Problems with this last psychological phase will initiate toilet dreams.)

Let’s look at the “function” of the symbol(s). The use of teeth is the first step in the digestive process (spiritually, the acceptance of experiences/change). Teeth are held in by our gums and are used for tearing off the proper “bite-sized” amounts of food that we feel we can handle and breaking it down for digestion and retention of beneficial elements/nutrients for growth. When we equate these actions with Psycho-Spiritual concepts, we see the correlations between physical processes, psychological healing and spiritual growth. Often, when we are in situations where we need to let go of something and we resist, whether a relationship, an argument, a child moving away to college, a death, etc., we will often dream of losing teeth. Many people feel that teeth dreams have a lot to do with their personal appearance, but I disagree with most of the petty vanity aspects and prefer to take the topic to a deeper level. Teeth dreams often point to decisions and “how we appear to others as a result of the decisions we make,” be it insecure, stable, successful, foolish, that our decision-making process is flawed or that we think too little/too much of ourselves. Rather than focus consciously on what our needs are and backing up our determinations with strong decisions, we focus on others’ perceptions of us. Do I look foolish staying with this person or do I look foolish in breaking it off? Do people think I’m weak? These are some of the distractions our egos throw at us to discourage us from addressing our needs, trusting our hearts and having faith in our potential. The scenery of the dream will point to the area of your life in question. The manner in which the teeth were lost is key in that it demonstrates whether they were consciously or voluntarily “released” or if they were “taken” in some manner, making us feel forced to let something/someone go before we feel we are ready. Life scenarios such as these lead to a powerless, humiliating feeling. Our largest Source of Power is in our belief system; our primary Expression of Power is in our words. As teeth also facilitate speech, not expressing our truth may be seen in a dream depicting damage or the act of pulling them out ourselves.

There are thousands of variations to how our dreams depict the damage or loss of our teeth. When there is additional symbology in a teeth dream that is gory or shocking, it is our subconscious telling us to pay attention and address the issue. The area of your life that the dream points to will be supported by accompanying symbology.

Your dream is interesting in that you have rocks that come out of your mouth. Rocks represent difficulties that need to be overcome or gone around. They are associated with permanence or sturdiness, and could represent emotional aloofness or the inability to change or open up. Financial difficulty could be a factor but I think this particular dream has to do with feeling that you made a wrong decision, even though the outcome was not that bad.In your dream your tooth is chipped (not totally destroyed). Immediately you blame yourself and your "habit" of grinding your teeth...something you do when you are unconscious. Upon inspection, everything looks fine. But now there are rocks emerging, one after the other as soon as you spit it out. Because the rocks are in your mouth I would mention that everything we say has impact. Perhaps you are finding it "hard" to express what you really want to say to someone.

I'm pressed for time but I hope this helps. Please let me know your thoughts.

Regards,

~Charlotte.

DREAMER'S RESPONSE

Hi Charlotte,

Thank you for your analysis. Your time is much appreciated.

When I was reading your words, It came to me and everything fitted like a completed jig-saw puzzle. Let me explain.

I had a past lost love. Our relationship was pretty much perfect in every way; then we went our own ways without no real reason to part. So, we both moved on with our love lives. But over the years we met each other on and off with no relationship; just good friends having some time together, nothing more. During some of our lunches, we joked about how it would be if we went back together. Out of the joke came seriousness of the possibility where we both wanted to be true. The problem is that we both love and have faith in God and the idea of leaving our husband and wife was not possible. So I guess that out of the fear of God and sin, we both got "busy" and the meetings became less and we lost contact once again.

Strangely enough, last year we ran into each other on MySpace.com. We got talking again and it was nice. I have to admit that I am almost surely certain that we both love each other. But in the end, I sent an email saying that this is the last email from me because I did not want to break up anyone's marriage even though we are "only friends." (It's the old idea of the rekindling flame.)

As I read your analysis, the first part of the dream came to me... I was walking through a quad and noticed my love standing there. I walked by pretending not to notice to see if my love would notice and call me after all these years. Well, I walked by but couldn't resist and turned around to say hi. I said hi and also said that our relationship can no longer exist. My love vanished and I went into a bedroom to sleep. I am not sure how I went from the quad to a bedroom but I guess it is a dream after all.

With an understanding from other websites and your posting, this is my personnal analysis.

The grinding of the teeth is sybolic to my youth. Upper teeth was my self image that was broken then repaired after accepting our lost love. Lower teeth was in good condition sybolic to my current marriage. The rocks I believe are symbolic of all the love I had deep down inside that finally came up to surface. In the end of the dream, I actually had a feeling of relief and a sense of true strength and happiness.

Thanks again, Charlotte.

MY RESPONSE:

Now THAT is a beautiful example of how to take an idea and correlate it to your own Personal Perceptions to see what fits for you!!! I'm so proud of you and I think you're absolutely right! I think your perception of the upper and lower teeth is exceptional, and the part about the rocks dead on. This is why I encourage everyone to present their dreams in as much detail as possible. Obviously, the first part of the dream escaped you. I'm glad the interp prompted you to remember that part so that you could make the pieces fit!

I'm also glad you made the choice you did.

Be sure to post other dreams, okay?

Love and Light,

~Char.

Driving in a Storm

2007-11-14T19:37:00.000-05:00

THE DREAM
I had this dream last Wednesday. At first it struck me as a little odd but nothing to wierd...so this weekend I found out that one of my good friends was involved in a car accident similar to the one in this dream. So is it just a conicidence?

I was driving in bad weather (rain or snow, I'm not sure) I don't remember if I was alone or not. I saw a car ahead of me was stopped. I put on my brakes and waited for the car to stop...it didn't stop soon enough but I didn't hit the car in front of me that hard...My car wasn't damaged but the other one was slightly damaged. I remember getting into lots of trouble for it.

Anyhow, in waking life I've been in two accidents...I'm an extreemly cautious driver. I'm curious though...it's really wierd...my friend that got in a car accident (he wasn't hurt) and I sometimes seem to...uhh...you know, get those feelings or like know what the other one is thinking...you know? He wasn't in my dream at all...I don't know how I would've known to warn him...but do you think there might be some sort of connection?

Thanks a bunch!
Phrassie

THE INTERPRETATION
Hi, Phrassie...how are you?

Yes, it would seem a little odd that you would dream this and then your friend is involved in an accident. But I think it is mere coincidence in this case because you were a participant in this dream - the driver.

A key symbol in this dream is the weather. Bad weather, i.e. rain or snow, generally points to the emotions being overwhelmed or needing to be cleansed, if the rain or snow is especially heavy. If it is merely inclement, it might suggest the same but to a lesser degree. I know you're not sure which it was, rain or snow, but both are forms of water, which is the emotions. Try applying both meanings to what is happening. In the case of snow, your emotions or perception might be a little frozen right now (due to past experiences?). Being frozen could also point to a certain 'rigidity' in the emotions or the behaviour being expressed while on this particular path and/or at a time of emotional "upheaval" (storm). By rigid, we could view some patterns as 'fixed' or immovable (stubborn), or unable to 'adapt' to new environments (the way liquid does when put into a different-shaped container), or that certain perceptions may be 'inflexible' and need to be softened lest they cause damage (rocks cause more damage than marshmallows, no?).

We do not always need to be on the offensive to cause damage to a situation, as I've learned the hard way. Sometimes, in not expressing your true feelings, in keeping them hidden beneath restricted behaviour (as in being Too Self-Controlled), we can unknowingly lead the situation down a negative path, causing hurt or damage in our refusal (conscious or not) to express enough to allow for compromise. A compromise can only be reached if we know the other's point of view...the truthful point of view. Although I value that I am an extremely honest person, in looking within myself, I realized that not letting people know my true feelings robbed us both of the honest flexibility needed in a healthy relationship. Most often, we find that we are being just plain old stubborn. It's difficult for some to admit they've been hurt.

You were the driver, which is good because you are in the position of control, not someone else or another aspect of yourself. You applied the brakes, which indicates that you did apply restraint to either your emotions, reaction or your contribution to the situation, however, a minor collision could not be avoided. Your car was not damaged, but the other car was. I bring you back to the idea that too much self-control or self-protecting mechanisms, while they certainly protect you from (perceived) pain or damage, can sometimes hurt others unavoidably. You were in a lot of trouble, you remember. In this case I think your conscience was the 'authority' which held you responsible, which is another point to ponder (self-punishment despite good efforts to avoid hurt?).

I'm a huge believer in the Law of Cause and Effect. This is one of the most powerful Universal Laws, and yet sometimes one of the most overlooked laws that govern us at times. I don't think What Goes Around, Comes Around is presenting itself to you hear. I think it's the Active and Reactive (trying to stop the car in time) that are trying to get your attention. Thank God it was only a fender bender, which tells me that you can fix this easily with a little clarity (nicer weather or clear glass in future dreams) and flexibility (ummmm....rubber band rainbows? a trampoline? Not sure. (smile))

In any event, I think it's one of those cool dreams, chock full of symbols and ideas that can be wisely applied to life's situations. I may not have hit any particular nail on the head, but if you can figure out how these images might apply and address it, hey..you're way ahead of the game.
If you figure it out, look for symbology in future dreams to let you know you are on the right path. If your lower consciousness is wondering, then your higher consciousness certainly won't leave you guessing.

As for knowing stuff before it happens? It's great, isn't it? But I don't think there is a connection to your friend. You would have been an observer most likely, and there would be that familiar feeling you get when you feel like you should warn someone. Don't you agree?

I hope this helps, Phrassie. Your dreams are always kinda fun.

Love and Laughter,

~Charlotte.

THE RESPONSE
You're totally right! That's amazing how much you got out of that dream. Thank you sooooooooooo much!

Phrassie

How Are Dreams Interpreted?

2007-11-03T19:51:00.000-04:00

The subconscious mind constantly evaluates, assesses, guides and rewards your conscious effort toward Self- understanding and Self-mastery. Any form of Human Suffering is directly related to a Perception of feeling Separate – from others, from yourself…from your Creator, hence the feeling of being Torn. When we are upset, we are out of balance and our motives are out of alignment. Your subconscious is the most natural and reliable source of knowledge to recognize and resolve these misperceptions and splits in consciousness (blockages), because this knowledge is an exchange From yourself To yourself by way of a bridge called Dreams. Life is about achieving Balance between opposites! It is when we achieve this balance that we experience Bliss.

It is My job as Translator to help You see what your subconscious is trying to get you to address. For that reason, and so as not to offend, sometimes I may ask that you tell me your Religion or Sexual Orientation in order that I may tailor my interpretation to you. The object is to help you within the structure of your own beliefs, not convince you of mine. I look at all issues from a Spiritual viewpoint, but if this angle will repel you from the interpretation’s message, simply tell me, and I can restrict it to simple psychological terms.

Psychic ability is a wonderful talent to bring to the task of dream interpretation, however, it cannot do the job alone and I feel it is only as useful as the Translator’s ability to clearly communicate the impressions received to the Dreamer. Most importantly, Interpretive Skill is required to identify the relationship between your Personal Symbols and what they mean to you, your experiences and perceptions. Extensive knowledge of minor dream elements which are subject to further interpretation is an absolute Must in order to truly identify which particular meanings of a symbol apply only to you and string together to form a story.

Furthermore, it is my hope to successfully guide others in implementing the changes needed to overcome the blockages revealed in their dreams.

I draw on all of my areas of study, experience and intuitive talents in response to the needs of each individual dreamer.

Thank you for your interest in having me interpret your dreams.

~Charlotte.

Cats in Dreams

2007-11-03T19:38:00.000-04:00

What is happening to the cat in your dream is significant. Their typical symbology often triggers clues in our minds as to what their personal meaning is for us in each particular dream or image presented by our psyche, which chose this symbol for a reason in an effort to connect us or re-connect us to an aspect of ourselves that is somehow shrouded. The colors and mannerisms of the cat also provide insight into what is happening in your subconscious.

Cats generally represent Feminine Receptive Love, mystery, independence, unpredictability, healing and cleverness. They function well in the dark due to the extra light sensors in their eyes. Symbolically, we could take this to mean that clarity (eyes) is acknowledged or needed in a situation where the core of the issue still has you “in the dark” or is functioning at an unconscious level at the moment. Often viewed as unsociable and aloof when they do not immediately return our affection, cats more or less require that you earn their trust. Their mannerisms and lack of dependence on humans to meet their needs can often leave us “guessing”. Their Traditional prey is the mouse, which could signify details of the situation and a personal loss or unhappiness. Their traditional enemy is the dog, which are known for their dependability, companionship and unconditional love…the opposite of the symbolic characteristic portrayals of cats. Healing may be required in the situation, on an emotional/spiritual level. Contemplation and Integration of the answers to various mysterious factors in the situation would aid the healing process. When the mystery is either resolved or accepted and released, nagging questions no longer remain, and the mind is at peace, allowing true emotion to flow undisturbed (unconditionally).

When these aspects are working in harmony, it is then that we experience Peace and Fulfillment. Cats in our dreams can tell a lot about how we give and receive love and reveal various power issues pertaining to a close relationship. Any imbalance in these areas are pointed out so that we may take action toward harmony. If the cat is frightened or hurt in the dream, this would point to the "perception" of danger or damage (emotional pain) in a relationship.

Should you have any questions about this symbology or would like an interpretation of a dream, please refer to the pricing structure above and email me. I look forward to helping you.

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THE UNUSUAL DREAM

2007-11-03T18:20:00.000-04:00

Sometimes I venture onto various message boards on the net looking for good book material. I found this message posted and responded to it in the hopes that this gentleman would gain insight into the nature of relationships and significant events in our lives. He really seemed to appreciate it.

Here's what he said:

I was having a usual everyday dream, however a girl entered my dream towards the end. She seemed more 'real' than the dream and like she did not belong to this dream, yet her presence in the dream still felt right. The symbols basically interpret that a strong friendship would form between me and this girl.

What I need your help with is this. That same girl I saw in real life three days later! at my work! every detail exact, down to mannerism, facial structure, body type...EXACT! It is quite scary!

My question is, when destiny actually crosses our paths directly, should I tell her I had seen her first in a dream...or would that be too weird? Secondly, should I tell her ever?

If you were in her shoes how would you react? PLEASE ANY HELP WOULD BE APPRECIATED! Respond urgently as I may meet her directly any day now...

SOME THOUGHTFUL CONSIDERATIONS:

Hello I hope you don't mind but when I read your post, several things occurred to me very strongly. I hope you find this input useful. I've been interpreting dreams for a long time now and several of my dreamers have similar experiences. I want to share one (okay, maybe two) nuggets of wisdom with you. One of the most common denominators in a scenario such as yours is that it is easy to perceive the situation as one of a "Soul Mate" situation. You dream of a woman, and Poof! there she is. Beautiful! What I would respectfully caution you to consider is this:

Every alliance has a specific purpose. Meeting someone does not necessarily mean that they are meant to be your wife, life partner or even play a romantic role. I think the reason for the precognitive dream is, as put so succinctly in the post above, so that you didn't miss her. You had the visual and the energetic connection already in place. If you end up marrying her, hey, one heck of a story for your grandchildren! But leave yourself open to the fascination of watching it unravel...and perhaps keep a journal to jot down further synchronicities. (And also keep us updated, as suggested .) She could lead to you a disguised blessing in the form of a great career opportunity, a creative endeavor, the next major phase in your life, etc. I have found in my own experiences that I when I see people before I meet them, these are the people who have major impact on my life (positive or negative is perception, but I can say even if it wasn't all roses, I certainly learned a lot and had a major jumpstart to my growth). Just to share, one day in Center City Philadelphia there was a small piece of graffiti on the bridge near 30th Street station that drew me to it like a literal magnet. I crossed the street (at the light, adding 100's of feet to my little journey, but it was sooooo important that I touch it). I get there and I'm tracing its shape, wondering why it was so significant. It was an Egyptian eye. A week later I go to a spiritual gathering and a woman introduces herself and there is the Egyptian eye tattooed on her arm. We were instantly friends and she did lead me to knowledge that had a MAJOR impact on my life.

We're no longer friends, but that's the reason I wanted to share this with you. Even though sometimes it feels so profound to have an experience like this, there are no promises or guarantees that the purpose for which they were "sent" to you will match any of your hopes or wishes. Also, there are times in our lives when we shut our hearts down in response to a painful experience. At times like these, someone is sent to us that will have enough impact to open our heart once more. The hard part is that opening your heart (let's say My heart) was the Purpose of the Alliance in my case (I'd shut it down after a painful breakup). Now Mr. Wonderful from my Dreams arrives and in my mind I was picking out a wedding dress and building a future out of daydreams because it was all so profound. I don't mean to babble and I hope I don't sound Preachy. I just would hate to see you disappointed and I resent that we are not handed a manual for these things. You seam very clear and level-headed (even a bit guarded) but expectations are dangerous things. You don't mention what you Hope this woman will mean to you. Either way, I'm sure it will be something amazing.

As for telling her? I think the women all agree that it would seem like a cheesy line. Also...most are a bit alarmed when you tell them this information prematurely. By "Pre-maturely" I mean before she is mentally and emotionally prepared to handle such information. An idea! What would be interesting and thoughtful, if this IS meant to be a romantic alliance, is this: in addition to my Journal idea, why not keep another journal to give to her as a gift, detailing the dream, meeting her, the magical quality of it all, all the amazing connections, dreams, sensations, revelations, etc. I did this to/for my guy. I knew about him for 4 years before we met 2 years ago. He cried. I know I'm a hopeless romantic and I had way too much time on my hands but I wanted to make the statement that I looked for and waited for him specifically. Who wouldn't, when ready, feel absolutely blown away when presented with something like this? And what woman wouldn't appreciate the thoughtfulness and gentleness it took to wait until the time was right to divulge the information, letting her come to you.

Anyway...this is going on way too long. Please let us know how this turns out! We're all rooting for ya!

P.S. So what was going on in the dream when you saw her? What events were going on? Just curious.

Blessings,

~Char.

DREAMER’S RESPONSE:

Char! you are amazing! there is no doubt your heart is a jewel amongst a sea of stones.

Thank you so much for your advice, it carries such a weight and experience I really respect and take to heart.

I knew from the dream it is not a romantic relationship (would be great tho ; P). I am absolutely thankful for the fact you in your wisdom confirmed to me the fact that it is a relationship that will benefit me in some way.

Well here's the juicy details. It turns out she's an assistant to my boss and she will be coaching me in sales training! This is an area I'm looking to improve in.

There isn’t many people who's advice is actually wisdom and makes sense for my life but yours does! Char, you are a treasure indeed.

I'd love to have further correspondence with you.

Esoteric

Grandmother’s Garage; Husband Shot; Kiddie Pools

2007-11-03T17:21:00.000-04:00

Name: Rebecca (Minnesota)

Hello, Rebecca,

It's my hope that I can offer an interpretation that will give you a platform from which you can determine what the dream really means. If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to email me. This is a line-by-line interp where I break the dream down and illustrate the "story line" of action and symbols. These take much longer than a basic interpretation but I find your dream very telling and hopefully the interpretation will help not just you but others reading this as well. This dream, like most, illustrates a current issue, how you are handling it and, finally, the best way to move forward. Let’s start from the beginning...

"Last night I head a dream my husband and I walked into my grandma's garage where people were attempting to steal things from her."
People in dreams represent aspects of ourselves. Men...the thinking, assertive, masculine side, and women, the nurturing, protective, emotional side. Your grandmother would represent your higher wisdom and your husband (if not representing himself and illustrating his emotional role in the scenario) would be your closest aspect...your partner/twin self. It appears that there are aspects of yourself (Mental, Emotional, Physical or Spiritual) that do not agree and are not moving forward in harmony. There is arguing, shooting, falling, stealing, etc. All are evidence of feeling a split consciousness, a lack of agreement within.

You go into your grandmother's garage. Garage's are associated with discarded ideas, projects, plans or goals, etc., things that we do not consider part of our everyday lives, with the exception of the car we drive. You do not mention a car in the garage, so I will assume that the topic of the dream is the aforementioned goals or ideas. When I first read your dream, I thought 'fertility issue.' In reading further, you answered my question. This dream is definitely about the idea of having a child. In my experience, dreams like this emerge as a reflection of the gamut of emotions that are triggered when trying to conceive a child. There are so many questions raised…wondering whose “fault” it is that it does not happen in the timeframe we set for ourselves. “Is it me? Is it Him? What’s wrong? Is it something that is against us?” It is a tricky, emotional path, but one that I feel can be understood, made peace with and learned from in order to achieve the goal and bring into this world the perfect love we crave.

The garage might suggest that your conscious, present emotions are that you should 'give up' or 'discard' the idea of having a child, however, you are in your grandmother's house, which suggests that your wiser self says otherwise…perhaps to listen to your intuition or to not to give up and to trust in yourself. Your husband is with you, indicating that he is an active part in the dream and your present emotions, not to the side. He is present. There are people "breaking in" and "attempting" to steal from her. Breaking in represents that there is clarity, wisdom or knowledge that is trying to break into your consciousness from your subconscious or soul. It is an alarming symbol designed to get your attention. You don't mention whether the people are male or female, but as I mentioned, females would represent your emotional self, while males represent the intellectual "get it done, make it happen" self. The act of robbing denotes feeling that something has been or is being taken from you...such as an opportunity, manifestation of a goal, the right to feel the way you do, etc. During experiences like this, we ask, "why is this not happening???" "Why is it taking so long?" and feel victimized. So who is victimizing us? This is merely the ego’s struggle at balance. Balance is rooted in acceptance, however, which is what our dreams strive to help us to achieve.

You strike me as a traditional family person eager to continue the family legacy in the form of a beautiful family, plenty of grandchildren...very family oriented. When we cannot make this happen, we question what may be wrong with us. We question why we cannot create the picture in our minds. Nothing, of course, is wrong with you…it could be just a matter of what is meant to be and, in some cases, overcoming the barrier to what is blocking the event from happening. The people who broke in are Attempting to steal. This is important in that they are planning but have not succeeded in taking anything from you/the side of you represented by your grandmother.

"When we walked in after much arguing..."
What is Arguing here are the different aspects of yourself, your emotional side struggling with your intellectual side, your rational/trying to make sense of this experience with your irrational/why-am-I-a-victim side, your conscious mind trying to wrestle with the unconscious and trying to figure out the solution.

"...they pulled out a gun and shot my husband..."
Guns and bullets represent blame. This may indicate feelings that you feel your goal of having a child has been taken from you or is being thwarted and thrown off course, all normal feelings, mind you, but that you are putting some responsibility on your husband. This may also indicate that you may feel in real life, whether in a subconscious reactive response or conscious expression toward your husband (a recent argument or upheaval), that he is holding up the process or is not as cooperative to it as he appears to be. It could also indicate, if your husband represents your intellectual side, that you are blaming your rational self for holding things up by saying that having a baby later would be better because of money (after we get that raise), housing space (when we have the extra room), etc., versus your emotional urge to bring another life into the world and fulfill your motherly instinct (but I feel strongly about having a baby now and want to get started!). I have no doubt you will have another child, but perhaps you need to examine your reasons for "wanting" another child versus your reasons why it might not be the best time, etc. Perhaps you must allow for these things to happen in their own time according to God's plan, etc., depending on your beliefs. If you perceive that you may not have your grandmother around for much longer, could this be triggering a fear of getting older and being alone with few people to care for you, etc.? Only you can answer this for sure, I am merely trying to give you food for thought.

"…while they were doing this a gleam of light shined on my stomach with a picture of a baby going towards my stomach."
Light is enlightenment, wisdom, clarity and knowledge from the higher self or God. I truly feel this is showing you the future outcome of the situation, or at least your highest hopes, once the block or issue is faced and overcome. I offer no guarantees, of course, just my feeling.

"After the robbers gathered some items and my husband had hit the garage floor they had stormed off in their trucks. (Not sure if this was the end of the dream or not - all I could remember).
What items? Do you remember? I would love to know the items that were taken if you can possibly recall. Either way, it sounds like they gathered specific items. I think these would represent specific "memories" (garage=storage) from your past and lend a serious clue as to what is happening in your subconscious mind, blocking change in the present. Were they decorations? Organizational items? Useless items? Baby furniture? (like a bassinette, changing table, a cradle...items pertaining to being in a "state of preparedness” for the new baby and so on.) Or rather, were they items that no longer serve you or your life…were they junk, useless, broken, etc.? Were they useful but forgotten? Do they point to a past project or goal that has been set to the side for later, forgotten or abandoned in order to have or nurture an unexpected family?

The next action in the dream is that your husband hits the floor. To fall is to either not be able to support oneself or that something has pushed us down against our will. This could mean that either your husband in real life feels unsupported or blamed…or that your intellectual, planning, goal-oriented side that your husband represents feels unsupported and that you are feeling alone in this situation. These emotions can be oppressive…pushing you down and keeping you there. So much more could be said but I think you know where to take this. No need for me to attempt to pick you apart and I certainly do not wish to insult you by suggesting that your husband is not supportive or that he leaves you feeling abandoned…merely that this emotion may be coming into play, whether real to the situation or as a residual to another experience in the past and is being triggered now by the scenario of trying to have a baby. Let’s move on…

The burglars/robbers in your dream “storm off.” This word usage suggests an emotional exit from the situation, as if suggesting giving up or running off in frustration, or even feeling like you want to.

They leave in a truck. What do trucks represent? They are vehicles that take us forward, that carry “things” such as valued possessions, memories, trash, baggage and burdens from one place to another…from one moment in time to another. What are you lugging? What should be removed from your life/past and what should be carried forward? What should be forgiven and forgotten and what should be embraced? People steal what they feel they are lacking in their lives or in their total sense of self. We hold on to things when we feel their absence will create a sense of loss. We give away what has served its purpose and are comfortable with its absence. Just to illustrate, compare losing an old table lamp to your wedding ring. Which loss would hurt more? Into which have you invested more hope, love and devotion?

"In the same night again we were all at my grandmas house with lots of people."
In this scene all aspects of you are harmonious and in unity, gathering together. It is nighttime, indicating that we are now delving into an aspect of your subconscious mind, that which has not yet been illuminated. It is the same night, indicating that a transition into harmony within yourself would be sooner rather than later. It sounds like you need to let go of something from the past, forgive it and embrace the future. Only you know for sure.

"I had been outside watering her flowers when my daughter had came out with one of her smaller cousins in swim suits."
Flowers represent an aspect of ourselves about to blossom, the growth of spiritual gifts, sexuality, a new insight, beauty, hope and new life...that which we nurture. Your daughter is your younger self, accompanied by another younger (newer) "idea/project/baby." They are in swim suits and are "prepared" to immerse themselves comfortably in water (water=emotion/spirituality). This scenario suggests that this immersion would be fun, replenishing and safe. Perhaps the goal of conceiving has become work and here you are reminded to return to “earlier” times and remember that children are borne of Love, not work. This is common among my clients who are trying to conceive. The Fun is taken out of the act that produces the child that is so wanted and desired. My advice would be to let go and enjoy the journey and surprise of creating a child from true love rather than anticipating its timed arrival. It might be interesting to note that so many unintentional pregnancies (especially among teens) are a result of the female's desire to bring love toward her. It happens...only in a form unexpected...in the form of a baby rather than from the sexual partner. Contemplate this for a moment and consider what having a child brings you...a sense of purpose...a vessel into whom you can pour all your wonderful love and nurturing...a sense that you are aspiring to being the wonderful mothers that your own mother and grandmother are. Again, you will know what resonates with you.

"Then I saw in my dream over a dozen small kiddie pools lined up in rows & columns along side of her house with the kids contemplating which one to go in."
This is interesting. Is there any way you would know the exact number? Numerology is so telling in a dream. If not, that's okay. There's more than a dozen...quite a few, indicating that this is a topic of much higher wisdom (more than 10). I'm not sure if it's karmic. Most telling is the fact that they are "organized, controlled and small,” with an emphasis on safe, shallow, non-threatening or too deep, etc." They are alongside the house, indicating that the solution is not too far a distance from your true self (the house represents you). The kids are trying to make a decision. What would help them make it? What is the question? Which pool is the best? Which one is the most fun? What factors would help them decide which one out of so many (choices) is the best way to go? Usually, I just let God decide, but I don't want to get too religious here until I'm comfortable in what your beliefs are. (Don't like to be pushy, just helpful.) So many choices. Which emotion to go with and feel comfortable in, eh? Your younger selves in the dream, which also crave the nurturing and guidance you so willingly want to give to a newborn, have much to consider. Do they go with the first option or check out the ones further down the line (the road, the timeline, etc.)? Checking out the other options would take some time and delay their decision, denoting either impatience or indecision. This is very unique and personal imagery (the individual, divided pools in contrast to the universal symbology of water). Water is emotion, spirituality, needed for life, etc. But in your dream it is divided proportionately, organized..."Just So." Could it be that you need conditions to be "just so" in order to move forward? Must the house be a certain way? Must your life be in a certain state of organization and control? Must your memories and past be organized and under control...carefully collected and stored in the garage of your memory bank? It gives you much to think about.

I bet you didn't think such a short dream could provoke so much thought, but this is their purpose. The end of a dream generally shows how you should move forward in the situation. I think it shows that you should not over-think it...go with your emotions but try not to over-analyze or control them, either. I certainly don't want to accuse you of being controlling or rigid, I simply want to say that "allowing" something to happen brings more joy than trying to squeeze it into a calendar. Calendars are remarkable inventions…unless they make you feel bad about something. I offer you my most respectful interpretation.

"I have no idea to the meaning to any of this, if someone could please help with anything I would appreciate it."
Often, most dreamers answer their own questions...as seen below...

You say:
"**Possible background that may help**

- My husband & I have been trying to conceive since this past October but have had no luck...Its beginning to worry me since I have had surgery where 2/3 of my thyroid was removed and have since did research and found that this could have an affect on getting pregnant. Also, we have a 3 1/2 year old daughter and when she was conceived it was totally unplanned."
Interesting, huh? ::) Remember that even though you've had surgery that what's meant to be will happen. Believe in miracles! The thyroid is a powerful gland and relates to vocal expression. Is there something you’re not expressing, even an artistic endeavor? Why would some of your expression have to be removed and how does it relate to raising a family? Just more food for thought.

"- My daughter & I usually go visit my Grandma at least 1 time a month to help her out, clean and do the things that get neglected. My mom had went with us this past time to water the flowers. (My Grandma is almost 90 and barely gets around with a walker so I fear that she will not be
a long much longer."
I just had a thought but tell me if I'm crazy. There were more than 12 pools. You visit Grandma once per month. Could the pools represent each monthly visit and the rhythm/pace in which you care for your Grandmother and the things that go "neglected"? Could You be the one who is neglected in this situation? Even if you aren't but merely FEEL that way could be major. Often, our feelings don't reflect reality, but we do have to deal with them and release them in order to move forward. Just a thought.

“Not sure if that enough background but hopefully it will help you to help me understand!”
This is more than enough background, Rebecca. What I'd be most interested in you considering is your everyday thoughts. Throughout the day, be mindful of the directions your thoughts and emotions take you. What images do you see from your past that trigger emotions pertaining to your present situation?

I do hope this helps. Only you can decide what fits and what doesn't -- what resonates with your personal truths and what may only be merely interesting. I would certainly welcome your feedback, good or bad. Feel free to contact me to discuss the dream further, discuss my interp or to simply share.

Thank you for the opportunity to examine your dream. I hope this didn’t get too psychological for you…I’m just doing my thing and hope to shed light on the mystery of dreams. I look forward to hearing from you.

Love and Light,

Charlotte

DREAMER'S RESPONSE:

Char,

I want to thank you for interpreting my dream, some things you were very exact on--others I would like to share more of my thoughts or feelings with you. I do want to give you all the permission in the world to use my dream as anything beneficial to others and if you have questions about more of it let me know.

I want to think about all of your questions or food for thoughts, I want to be able to answer all of your questions too. I will email you a copy of your interpretation with my direct thoughts in hopes that it will help you.

I also want to thank you very much for taking the time to consider all of my emotions, I really appreciate it.

Please feel free to email me with any more questions you have in the mean time.

**You don't have to keep me totally anoymous, Rebecca, MN Would that be ok?

Thank you !!!!

Rebecca

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Ok, I am going to start to answer some of your questions or thoughts and let you know what I am really going through so you can see what areas you really pinpointed. In the 3 paragraph about the garage incident.

When we first starting trying in October I didn't know if I really wanted a child that soon just because my husband had just finished school and was starting a new job (during the time of him going to school and working 2 jobs he didn't seem to have much time for my daughter and I, it seemed like the time we did have together we argued because we didn't tell each other things and we weren't spending time together-it just made the situation worse).

After a month of him being home with us again and us trying I knew it was what we wanted and it was hurtful knowing that I could get pregnant when I was 19 knowing a guy for a year, then we are married, have a stable life and were having troubles. Why is it happening now when we want it so badly and when I wasn't even sure what I wanted out of life when I was 19 here I am pregnant, it was definitely meant to be considering I love being a mother and the wife to my then boyfriend. We were meant for each other and I thought we were meant to have more children, I guess we will see. After having my thyroid removed when I was 19 and having the scare with cancer (I was pregnant when I had the surgery but had no idea then) after a few months I found out I was pregnant. After having my daughter I had an IUD since because of not knowing if my hormone levels would fluctuate or not using the pill or patch wouldn't work for me. So in October I had it removed and am having fertility problems. I regret having it just because I am wondering if it caused problems with me, I don't blame my husband what so ever. I think that if either of us had problems it would be me just because of the whole thyroid thing possibly fluctuation my hormone levels (have had it tested and its been normal but the low side of normal) and possibly something to do with the IUD (scar tissue?). I thought that because it was so easy with my daughter, well getting pregnant without trying it would happen right away so I am a little detoured thinking that something is wrong with me and wondering what I would do if I was able to have another child.

I am definitely a family person wanting the children and can't wait to be a grandmother. I want the picture perfect family that has been stored away in my head. The robbers taking things-I don't remember the exact items. There is nothing valuable in her garage presently. She cannot drive and keeps her car parked in her garage in the dream there was no car and I don't remember seeing any of the other items they may take like a lawn mower or those things. The only thing she really keeps besides that kind of stuff is she has a large room built in her garage where she keeps a lot of her holiday items and stuff from when her mother past away.

You had said "It sounds like you need to let go of something from the past, forgive it and embrace the future. Only you know for sure." I am not sure that I really hold a grudge or have anything that I really regret about my past. My past with my grandmother is very memorable “I remember having sleep overs with her (her husband had past away before I was born) I think I was more of her rock keeping her busy and having something to look forward to, she taught me how to cook and garden and I miss that she no longer can enjoy it and that we can't share those things together.

The kiddie pools in my dream, it was so weird and that's what I instantly starting trying to find a meaning behind since it was so odd and I have never experienced anything like it. I don't remember exactly but I can somewhat picture how they were organized:

X X X
X X X
XX X X
X X X X

There might have been more than that in a row like instead of 4 in the first row there would have been 5.

I am very much a person that thinks that God has a plan for us all he has control of the majority of things that impact our lives. Others are options are choices made by us that may not be correct or easy but eventually we could get the guidance and he would help us. I think he knows if my husband was meant for me is he truly my soul-mate, I think so I look forward to spending the rest of my life with him but then I see others getting divorced that said they felt the same thing when they first with their spouses. Do I think things will change between us? No, we have a great relationship, he's not only my spouse but my best friend and my soul-mate for life.

Hopefully some of this information will help with your side of things, please let me know if you have any other questions or need more food for thought.

Thanks again!

Rebecca

First I’m a MAN, then I'm a WOMAN having SEX!

2007-11-03T16:36:00.000-04:00

Hello Charlotte,

You did an e-mail dream interpertation for me back in Sept 2001. I was extremely happy with it, infact I still have a printed copy of it.

I have had a dream that for the most part seems pretty goofy, so I thought I would once again seek your services for a line by line interpertation.

Just a little back ground on me. I'm a single male, never married, getting all to close to 48.

The dream starts out with my going over to a friends house. She is just recently seperated. She and her exhusband were and still are some of myclosest friends. Neither one of us like to go to movies by ourselves, we use each others company to see ones that we are interested in.

I'm there to pick her up for a movie and since I'm there a little early she invites me in, we sit on the couch and chat for a bit. She suddenly surprises me by telling me that I have permission to kiss her if I want. I'm suprised by this since I never thought she had any romantic thoughts towards me, I ask her if she is sure about this and she says yes, she is sure.

For my part its a very nervous first kiss, but the warmth of her kiss completely flows thru me. After a couple of long passionate kisses, she asks me if I would like try something kinky. My responce is a basic...AAAhhhh,,,, uuuuhhhhh, maybe, I guess, I don't know. She tells me that I can think about it while we go the movies and can give her my answer when I bring her home. We go to the show and its the normal routine for us, idle chatting while waiting for the movie to start, a coke and popcorn, then watch the show.

When I get her home, she once again invites me in. When we are sitting on the couch again, she asks me if I have thought about her offer, and then tells me that she thinks I would get a kick out of it. I give her a nervous okie dokie and she then tells me to kiss her again. We kiss, and while we are kissing, I get very light headed and maybe for a split second pass out.

When I come too, I'm still sitting on the couch, but in a different location. I open my eyes and see myself staring back. I then realize, that we have switched bodies. My first responce is ohmygod ohmygod ohmygod. She laughs and asks me whatI think about it. I stand up, look up and down the body I now occupy, and then start jumping up and down. She asks me what I'm doing and I tell her that I'm feeling them bounce. She laughs again and tells me that if I keep it up, one of us is going to be sore in the morning. I stop, sit back down and find myself being kissed once again. She asks me if I would like to truly experience being a woman, then kisses me again. I feel myself being picked up and carried to the bedroom. After some very passionate love making, we both fall asleep. When I wake up in the morning, I find myself still being in her body, using his/her chest and shoulder for a pillow. I get up to use the bathroom, and spend some time looking in the mirror, with my hands exploring this body I'm now in. When I get back to bed, I look at my old body and notice that I snore. After a little while of lying in bed, I pull the sheets back to look at my old body. He/she is completely naked and I find myself getting the urge to perform oral sex on him/her to wake him/her up. I lay there for a long time thinking I can't do that, its wrong for me to do it. Then I think, its not wrong for a woman to do it, I'm a woman now, so I can do it. I takehis/her penis in my mouth and suck him/her awake.

Once He/she is awake I offer to make some coffee and head to the kitchento start it. After a bit he/she comes out of the bedroom and we sit at the kitchen table with our coffee. He/she tells me that he/she thinks some french vanilla cream would go good in the coffee. I ask where it is kept and he/she slides the cup towards me, slips his/her hand in my bathrobe, grasps my breast, gently squeezes it and milk squirts out into the cup. I put my finger to the nipple to catch a stray drop and taste it. French vanilla cream. I look up and tell him/her I now know why he/she spent so much time sucking my breasts the night before. He/she laughs and tells me the best is yet to come.

Once again I find myself being carried to the bedroom and I surprise myself, finding that I'm looking forward to more love making as a woman. After some most excellent foreplay, I find myself guiding him/her into me. As he/she fully penetrates me, he/she tells me that we can stay this way, or I can be an underwater photographer, but not both.

That is where the dream ended. Just to let you know, underwater photography is my big passion in life. The woman in the dream and I have never been intiment and it would surprise me if we ever did, but I wouldn'tobject to it.

Thanks for anything you can come up with!

Sincerely
Anonymous

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Client was emailed this clarifying question in order to interpret the dream fully.

Hello! So nice to hear from you! I remember you!

This dream certainly is a whopper! Fascinating, actually. I was hit withso many things while reading it. Your clarity and level of detail is wonderful. If I may, I have one clarifying question, and I hope you are not offended. I don't think you will be, as I sensed no embarrassment or judgment in your description of the events. I just want to be sure of your sexual orientation, in case I should break out of my usual stance on sex dreams,which is that sex is the merging of energies and has nothing to do with one's orientation. At several points, nurturing issues surface, which is quite common in all of us, and then I got a sense of additional thought processes. If you wouldn't mind giving me that one detail, it's a go and I will enjoy interpreting this one. Pretty cool stuff.

I will forward the interp as soon as possible. I look forward to your reply.

Love and Light,
Char
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His response:

Hello Charlotte,

No problems with your query, I'm a straight male. I'm looking forward to your interp, as I said before the one you did before was most excellent.

Thanks
Anonymous
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Hello again,

There is one thought I had that may help also, when I was younger I did experiment with cross dressing, but gave it up as it was ultimately unsatisfying.

THE INTERPRETATION:

Dear Anonymous:

This was an especially enlightening dream insofar as how the mind depicts the energies that exist in the physical representations of both genders. I’ve done several decapitation dreams, but this was truly original.

Overall, I feel the dream points to two areas, with its emphasis shifting between both at different times, yet supporting both in an underlying fashion. The first is the area of relationships. I feel that a change in your daily life is needed or desired in the form of a unified, balanced relationship. The desire for one is being expressed, one that is more SATISFYING on all levels: mental, emotional and physical. (Look at what you said about your cross-dressing experience.) Some releasing of past experiences may be in order, however, as in detachment from previous partnerships, before you find fulfillment. The other area is exploration of sexual and emotional “roles” and an effort to understand feminine and masculine emotional/physical counterparts. This I find to be common nowadays as more and more souls chose to experience a variety of energetic roles in their lives. In the past 20 years we’ve seen many changes in the roles of men and women as people, parents, lovers and friends.

When reading your dream, I got a mixture of vibes, as I mentioned. One was a “bi-curious” vibe that I felt aimed toward the future and a desire to experiment the passive role with a man. You answered this question for me by explaining your exploration of transgender dressing in the past. While an unsuccessful venture, it would make sense to leave open the idea of further exploration of sexual roles or fantasies. The emotional expressions of this dream support the fact that you would find cross-dressing unsatisfying, as it only changes the Outside and does not Immerse you in the feminine role. The desire to understand the feminine essence would certainly steer you in the direction of their appearance, and the clothing may have brought you closer to what you wanted to discover, but I don’t think that that type of “physical” exploration will bring the satisfaction you are seeking. Your emotional nature is what needs to be addressed, and then perhaps expressed physically. The stronger vibe I got from the dream was the relationship issue of learning to be more Receptive to love and being in the receptive role. The emotional aspects of femininity may be what you are most attracted to, whether it is getting a break from being the aggressive partner in a relationship or seeing what it is like to assume the submissive role (with either gender). Another idea to be considered is whether you feel you are not being assertive enough in daily life, and wish that you could learn to be or allow yourself to be more aggressive in your dealings with others. If you have a gentle nature (as many Pisces men have. I don’t know your sign, but I’d lean toward Pisces, Cancer or Aquarius as a Sun or Rising) as opposed to a more “cave man-type” (meaning overblown) masculine presence, it would behoove you to learn to understand your own psychological makeup without judging it or dismissing it as inferior or undesirable. (Just a thought…only you know what fits.)

Since the feminine gender and characteristics overwhelm the dream, I wonder if there is an issue that originates from your relationship with your mother, and you are now forced to simply acknowledge its origin and let it go. In some mother/son relationships the mother is overbearing and doesn’t allow for sufficient self-expression. In a case such as this you may find that your relationships are on-again, off-again. In others, the father is dominated in opinion and decision-making, causing some varying perceptions in the family onlookers, the male children especially. Sometimes in these cases the young men are overly aggressive, subconsciously dominating anything they can in order to dispute what was witnessed as a child. We express our perceptions of the roles our parents played in many ways. I don’t wish to push this subject and presume that I am correct on either point offered, but will allow you to tell me your thoughts of the interpretation. It is worth mentioning, however.

With regard to receptive love, as depicted in the dream in the form of a female friend: giving is often easy for most of us; allowing ourselves to Receive is often difficult, as it makes us feel vulnerable. This vulnerability, however, is often the core of the feminine mystique, which this dream explores: female receptive love, our emotional self, creativity/intuition, emotional bonds, nurturing of ourselves and others, natural cycles of life, relatedness, the birth of new life/projects/ideas, the unconscious and that which is Open and can be penetrated (the Yang). The polarities of nature are Masculine (Yin) and Feminine (Yang). Both are required to achieve balance in any area. Balance is what I feel your dream is urging you to achieve; to intellectualize your life less and indulge your emotions. Your mental and emotional Selves are in fact, SWITCHED in order to illustrate a criss-crossed balance. In some respects, fear must be relinquished, but in others, preconceived notions or “conditioning” must be relinquished in order to experience the emotions at a deeper level. At several points, you are looking at yourself, making assessments, impersonally taking notice of things without judgment (this is great!) or simply (safely) exploring out of curiosity.

On the relationship side, I feel that perhaps there is a tendency to give more in your relationships, and that you either unwittingly block or do not always ask for or receive all that you offer or desire from another: warmth, generosity, nurturing, consistent excitement and the freedom to express yourself. There is a mundane feel and a desire to break free of old patterns of expression and thought systems that no longer serve you or hold your interest. You’ve outgrown some things and are working to take the self-exploration phase of earlier years to a new level. Emotional security is a factor here. You would need someone who will allow you to express yourself, even if that expression is part of the transformational process, and not the end result. In a relationship, whether you are currently in one or hoping for one, several “conditions” must occur in order for you to feel that the relationship is a success. 1) You need a level of acceptance that will allow you to grow, 2) You need someone who can support your emotional and spiritual growth without depending on you, without judgement and without taking more than they give, and 3) Someone who will not demand that you play the role or express the more traditional characteristics of what society deems to be a “man.” Most importantly, this person will need to have an open mind and must be nurturing toward their own as well as your sense of emotional security in a relationship. In giving Readings, I have found consistently that our forties are a phase of going for what we truly want to accomplish in life, and our fifties reveal to us who we really are at our core, without the outer masks, armor and ego-expressions we use to protect, defend and diminish our fears. Perhaps you are approaching this phase.

Your dream naturally falls under the Sex Dream category, which I will summarize for you. Sex in Dreams is a merger of energies, aspects or qualities within the Self. Having sex with a particular person or one you know represents a blending of the qualities of that person with your own. It does not necessarily mean that you desire sex with that person, hence your shock at your friend’s dream self making such an offer. I would venture to say that your friend has embarked on a new journey of singlehood, breaking free of a marriage. Her life has changed significantly and she is free to do as she wishes outside of the confines of marriage, i.e. date other people, explore her sexual nature and fantasies. This could possibly be what you are equating her with and want for yourself, the opportunity to break free of your own self-imposed limitations in order find the right person and achieve what you felt she HAD: a harmonious, balanced marriage with another.

That being my summary of the issue explored, I will move on to the Line-by-Line. I’ve used bold-face type to emphasize key words. When broken down, this dream seems to have taken its time unfolding for you so that you could grasp the meaning. Its positive nature is wonderful. I also found phrases you use in your speech to be helpful. Most people do answer a lot of their own questions in their descriptions. Your use of some phrases was very interesting. It follows the basic Beginning-Middle-End format. The beginning presents the issue and your perceptions of it, the middle shows how you want to progress and the end shows how you will get there. Let’s begin…

The dream starts out with my going over to a friends house. She is just recently seperated. She and her ex-husband were and still are some of my closest friends. Neither one of us like to go to movies by ourselves, we use each others company to see ones that we are interested in.

Most dreams begin in either a building or a vehicle. The House represents the Self, meaning your inner nature is being explored here. The ground floor represents daily living situations, and the living room represents daily interaction with others. Two of several symbols that point to your daily life. It is generally nighttime in your dream, pointing to unconscious matters that need to be explored or brought to light.

To you, her house is an atmosphere where you feel comfortable emotionally. Her marriage represents partnership/unity and the dissolving of a partnership or contractual agreement. Being separated represents 1) change in her daily life and habits and 2) the removal/separation from the Thinking Part of the Self (her husband, and also meaning your emotions are being concentrated on here). Being female, she represents your Emotional Self. You, throughout the dream, participate as your Thinking/Analytical Self, remaining male in Thought, but female in Desire.

This may get tricky, but I’ll do my best to be concise. I’m glad you like detail…it’s gonna get interesting. She is your friend’s wife/ex-wife, denoting that you may feel you are crossing a taboo boundary or need to cross a Perceived Boundary in order to get in touch with your truer, natural emotional structure. This is one of the reasons I feel your sexuality may be calling for exploration. The other room used in the house is the bathroom, which represents cleansing and elimination of the old.

I'm there to pick her up for a movie and since I'm there a little early she invites me in, we sit on the couch and chat for a bit. She suddenly surprises me by telling me that I have permission to kiss her if I want. I'm suprised by this since I never thought she had any romantic thoughts towards me, I ask her if she is sure about this and she says yes, she is sure.

Movies represent the depiction of our current or past thoughts, feelings and perceptions of our lives and relationships. By watching the movie we get a chance to gain a new perspective. They can also represent public criticism; our fears of what others think of us. Movie screens tend to make the movie seem “larger than life”. In a symbolic sense, it shows us that our fears are equally out of proportion and are much larger than we realize.

You sit on the couch, which represents self-perception and the need to understand your own programming at a deeper level. Its color would say a lot about the issue you need to confront, but it would definitely be a part of your daily life (repetitive symbology supporting Daily Life theme).

You are given Permission to kiss her. Rather, your emotional self grants your thinking self Permission to get closer and connect on a deeper level to your emotions. You may feel that the male role you currently play prohibits you from expressing your emotional nature and that it would be “wrong” or inappropriate (kissing your friend’s wife) to do so. Your conscious mind is surprised, naturally, and you ask her if she is Certain or Confident about this. She is. (Notice throughout the dream she is relaxed, grounded and confident in your interaction. She seems like a warm, brown-eyed brunette to me. Medium build but shapely. A maternal type.)

For my part its a very nervous first kiss, but the warmth of her kiss completely flows thru me. After a couple of long passionate kisses, she asks me if I would like try something kinky. My responce is a basic...AAAhhhh,,,, uuuuhhhhh, maybe, I guess, I don't know. She tells me that I can think about it while we go the movies and can give her my answer when I bring her home.

Your first kiss is hesitant (fear of emotional exploration or breaking a rule?), but soon a soothing warmth spreads and you relax. Your fear is transformed to safety. She suggests something Kinky, something out of the ordinary that offers Thrills and breaks out of what society deems to be normal. You cannot take a stance; it seems good but you have not fully considered it. She says you can think about it (a mental pause for reflection) and you can tell her later. You are granted time for a delayed reaction from a new perspective. The New Perspective thing actually pops up a couple times here.

We go to the show and its the normal routine for us, idle chatting while waiting for the movie to start, a coke and popcorn, then watch the show.

Here is where I mention your choice of words without actually knowing what the dream was about. You say “Normal Routine”. Normal Routines are habitual patterns. If you take a look at how you habitually behave or react in relationships, you will begin to note the markers where certain triggers or buttons are pushed and you change direction, become too aggressive or withdraw emotionally, whatever the behavior is that you exhibit. This scene is not really boring, but depicts comfortable companionship which may be the Hidden Goal. Here is the major pivot in the dream! This scene is the cutoff where the dream goes into a deeper level and illustrates what is probably the solution and key suggestion that balance in relationships is needed for your happiness.

When I get her home, she once again invites me in. When we are sitting on the couch again, she asks me if I have thought about her offer, and then tells me that she thinks I would get a kick out of it. I give her a nervous okie dokie and she then tells me to kiss her again. We kiss, and while we are kissing, I get very light headed and maybe for a split second pass out. When I come too, I'm still sitting on the couch, but in a different location.

It’s a repeat of the first sequence only now you are familiar with it and more comfortable. Hopefully, you can see the beginnings of the use of Role Reversal that this dream is applying. I’ve highlighted all of the key elements. This is an important passage. You get the emotional invitation or “urging”. You’re asked if you applied more “thought” to the issue, and your emotional self says that she “thinks” you will get a “kick” out of it. Kicks=erotic thrills, etc., as in “get your kicks”. There is emphasis on individual perspectives, opinions and the use of intellect. You then feel “Light Headed” which is mental detachment from the situation. You pass out momentarily. Generally, fainting is the inability to either express or Cope with a situation. It is often seen as escape, but yours only lasts seconds. As a personal dream symbol for you, I don’t see this so much as an inability or unwillingness to explore or cope, I see it as a momentary lapse where you needed to go deeper in your unconscious to really connect to the issue. This is basically a connection between Consciousness and the Soul. I feel I am correct in this. When you come out of it, you are still on the couch, but in a different location ON the couch, which gives you A New Perspective or View of the Situation. You don’t say whether you are left, middle or right. Can I safely assume she is now on your right?

I open my eyes and see myself staring back. I then realize, that we have switched bodies. My first responce is ohmygod ohmygod ohmygod. She laughs and asks me what I think about it. I stand up, look up and down the body I now occupy, and then start jumping up and down. She asks me what I'm doing and I tell her that I'm feeling them bounce.

When you open your eyes, you are seeing now through Her eyes…the Eyes of Your Emotional Self. She is looking at you through your Male Intellectual Eyes, taking on masculine traits and asking “what you think.” We now have a woman’s head on a man’s body and vice versa. You continue to be fascinated by this perspective and explore and notice a great deal. Further supporting the concept that you are dealing with an emotional issue and must relinquish your habitual mental processes is the idea that you now have a feminine body. She (let’s call her Nancy) has your male body and you have her body. Decapitation in itself denotes mental detachment and not “losing your head” over a situation. Your imagery takes this to a new level. You engage in some playful exploration…basically “seeing what happens when I do this” which is cause and effect and natural curiosity. You are exploring and becoming familiar in “Your New Role.”

She laughs again and tells me that if I keep it up, one of us is going to be sore in the morning. I stop, sit back down and find myself being kissed once again. She asks me if I would like to truly experience being a woman, then kisses me again. I feel myself being picked up and carried to the bedroom.

Her laughter is a great sign of emotional ease. Her position throughout the dream is one of reassurance, if you notice, and she assumes the Masculine/Dominant/Aggressive role, you the Feminine/Submissive/Receptive. Once again we have male and female aspects merging, and you are offered a chance to experience what most men would like to experience in an effort to Understand. The natural effect of Understanding is Balance. What’s interesting is that you are Carried to the bedroom. I saw this as a major symbol of being emotionally supported (as I stated in my summary that I felt you needed). One must relax and trust in order to be carried and not be afraid of being dropped or falling. There is an absence of fear here, which IS a statement that says “Don’t be afraid” or “There is nothing to Fear” in the scene playing out. She assumes the dominant, aggressive role.

After some very passionate love making, we both fall asleep. When I wake up in the morning, I find myself still being in her body, using his/her chest and shoulder for a pillow. I get up to use the bathroom, and spend some time looking in the mirror, with my hands exploring this body I'm now in. When I get back to bed, I look at my old body and notice that I snore.

I’ve crossed out many of the he/she phrases for clarification. You do notice, however, the image of union and balance in the phrase “he/she”. You also use it throughout the rest of the dream. This is another element of balance that has been integrated since the beginning of the dream, which was hesitant. You experience an enthusiastic merging where one would probably be pretty freaked out by now. And here is where I feel the true element of sex and respective roles is further exposed for examination. You are assuming the position most women find comforting and safe, lying on a man’s shoulder. You go into the bathroom, a room that offers the privacy for the release of feelings, sexual privacy and self-assessment. You spend time looking in a mirror. Mirrors represent the Reflection of one’s relationship with oneself, the source from which we draw for our self-esteem, our self-image, individuality, self-assessment and the desire to make adjustments in order to be more desirable to others. We often try to see ourselves the way others see us. In this case, you have a feminine body, which makes me wonder if there is something concerning your mother and your self-esteem that must be recognized and forgiven, whether she was too controlling or protective, or not as nurturing as you may have needed. The mirror image is a major clue to the issue in this dream. You go back to bed, where your waking life body lays asleep (unconscious of itself). You notice you snore, but seem to accept it for what it is. You do not take a position for or against.

After a little while of lying in bed, I pull the sheets back to look at my old body. He/she is completely naked and I find myself getting the urge to perform oral sex on him/her to [wake] him/her up. I lay there for a long time thinking I can't do that, its wrong for me to do it. Then I think, its not wrong for a woman to do it, I'm a woman now, so I can do it. I take his/her penis in my mouth and suck him/her awake.

This sequence illustrates the mental battle you may be having consciously or unconsciously. You pull the sheets back to examine “Your Old Body.” This feels like you see it as something from the past. You seem to enjoy the new body more than the old, as well. This might have something to do with your note that you are approaching 48 and are begrudgingly getting older. Nudity is seeing something in its pure form without attitudes or behaviors to cover its emotional vulnerability. Oral sex is synonymous with “feeding” off of another’s energy. Taking something (an idea, concept, experience, energy or characteristic, etc.) into yourself for Integration into the whole in order to achieve balance. The mouth draws on things for nourishment and growth: the breast as an infant, food, liquids, etc.) In this case, you are taking in characteristics of the male essence…Individuality, Independence, Will, Aggressiveness, Individualistic, Strength, Courage, Determination, Virility, Practicality, Masculine Wisdom, That Which Penetrates And Understands, or that which has an innate desire to reproduce. The mental argument ensues with the reasons why it would be acceptable to anyone else or “to society.” This is what females do. Permission is granted – from yourself, to yourself– once again, to do something a remote part of you wants to do, regardless of what it appears to be to the outside observer. You proceed to perform oral sex on “Him” and bring him back to wakeful awareness (consciousness as opposed to being unaware).

Once He/she is awake I offer to make some coffee and head to the kitchen to start it. After a bit he/she comes out of the bedroom and we sit at the kitchen table with our coffee. He/she tells me that he/she thinks some french vanilla cream would go good in the coffee. I ask where it is kept and he/she slides the cup towards me, slips his/her hand in my bathrobe, grasps my breast, gently squeezes it and milk squirts out into the cup. I put my finger to the nipple to catch a stray drop and taste it. French vanilla cream. I look up and tell him/her I now know why he/she spent so much time sucking my breasts the night before. He/she laughs and tells me the best is yet to come.

You do the nurturing thing and head off to make coffee (stimulation). The kitchen is your 3rd symbol of nurturing, by the way. There’s a lot of symbolic support here. You are at the kitchen table, where many confessions and communication of true feelings take place and are “put on the table.” Here is where you used the term “he/she” the most. He/She is a balance and combination of masculine and feminine characteristics. The conversation turns to what would “taste good” or rather would be pleasing as it pertains to personal likes. Here is the longest focus on the breast, the symbol of nurturing. It is also the most erotic scene and expresses the most Satisfaction. Here is where the question of sexual tendency came through the strongest as well. You seem to enjoy being on the receiving end of pleasure and there is also a seductive feel to the way your friend entices you. As far as giving and receiving sexually go, most sexual activities allow the man to demonstrate or fulfill their erotic urges and fantasies, but they please the woman more than men in some cases because they are in the receptive role or the person whom the action is being performed on or for. You allow this interaction to take place, which is a more passive stance. In the next scene, you embrace the feminine essence, now fully comfortable in the role, and offer yourself fully to the experience.

Once again I find myself being carried to the bedroom and I surprise myself, finding that I'm looking forward to more love making as a woman. After some most excellent foreplay, I find myself guiding him/her into me. As he/she fully penitrates me, he/she tells me that we can stay this way, or I can be an underwater photographer, but not both.

To your surprise, you enjoy being made love “to.” It truly is a wonder to be a woman. You find yourself to be a Willing Participant, offering encouragement in the form of guiding him into your body. I knew a man who saw this action as the ultimate sign that he was wanted and was in the dominant role. The last line is the kicker. Here’s why. He/She says you can remain this way (balanced, harmonious, pleasured, etc)….a PARTICIPANT with Real Passion –– or you can be a person who is an OBSERVER of Life, a Photographer who captures photos (memories) of ‘what is’ but rarely Creates them (like a painter does) or Experiences what’s in the picture as a PARTICIPANT. You must choose, your Emotional Self warns…you can’t be both…and expect to be happy. This is not to say that you are a constant observer, only to say that for the message of the dream, you must choose your path. Photos correspond to memories of experiences, ideas and relationships, and are associated with recalling events from the past with a more detached or objective perspective (there’s that new perspective again) and gaining a clearer picture of what transpired. Water represents the emotions. Being under water denotes being immersed in the emotions or overwhelmed by an experience. The level of comfort would be indicated by the condition of the water, the emotions experienced while in the water, etc.

That is where the dream ended. Just to let you know, underwater photography is my big passion in life. The woman in the dream and I have never been intimate and it would surprise me if we ever did, but I wouldn't object to it.

My surprise is your use of the phrase “Big Passion in Life”. What a bold statement! A Very interesting and an unusual way to wrap up a dream. I am curious to know your actual situation, if you’ve been shying away from relationships based on the past or perhaps, like many, not being open enough to truly invite and accept someone INTO your life. Whatever you would like to explain. Like I said, I felt a mixture of things and I tried to translate them as neatly and as respectfully as possible. If you would like to enlighten me as to what is correct I would be honored. Did I envision your friend correctly? Rest assured that personal topics are not discussed with anyone.

Thank you for the opportunity to analyze your dream. As always, only you can determine what fits, but I hope I’ve helped offer a platform from which you can access the dream’s message with clarity. If you reflect upon this dream in the future, you may gain additional insight because of the wisdom gained in the interim. Please let me know your thoughts or, if you would like to discuss the interpretation or your circumstances further, please feel free to request an appointment.

Warm Regards,

Charlotte

DREAMER’S RESPONSE:

Charlotte,

WOW!!! Once again, you have given me much to think about. I need to take a few days to take in all this information. So many things are ringing in my head right now as truth. You were right! In the beginning of the dream she was on my left side but when I came to she was on the right side of me. How do you know that??? This is a bit overwhelming so I will contact you for an appointment to discuss your amazing interpretation.

Thank you so much!

Anonymous

What does it mean to dream of a Tornado?

2007-11-03T16:06:00.001-04:00

Tornadoes and other natural disasters represent emotional upheaval. Tornadoes specifically point to “Fear of Separation from Family Members.” There is a person in the situation you are experiencing where you may feel that if you tell them your true thoughts and feelings that you will lose them. Our fears of what might happen when we communicate honestly generally do not occur as we imagine. Tornadoes are a culmination of air in its most destructive capacity, pointing to the realm of thought (air). Look clearly at your fears and try to determine which are truly based on a possible reality, rather than an imagined “worst case” scenario. Trust your heart to tell you what to do. The pain we experience and perceive is truly a barometer of the Destruction we perceive being done. We often categorize experiences as small or large, depending on the loss we think we experienced. Pain is measured according to the depth of that loss or the importance of what was destroyed.

Another possible representation is the presence of a teenager in the family whose behavior is affecting the family unit. Often, when dealing with teens, there is the element of fear that if you are too tough on them that they will run away or distance themselves emotionally even further. I feel that it is worth every effort to get through and guide your child. Later, in adulthood, your child will look back and see that you tried your best to help, guide and protect them, no matter what decision they ultimately made at the time.

Tornadoes can also point to an individual with a “stormy” personality. Alcoholics, Substance Abusers and Emotionally/Mentally ill or volatile people are generally represented here. In the presence of these personalities, one usually will do everything possible, to the point of extreme self-sacrifice, in order to keep a semblance of peace. The upheaval we feel in these situations is repressed and buried and can often lead to physical sickness if brought from a mental level to a physical level, often manifesting as ulcers, disorders of the blood (high blood pressure, diabetes, etc), disorders of the liver (which represents anger) and abuse of alcohol and substances or sleeping aids. These behaviors are also viewed as having the destructive capacity of a natural disaster.

Whatever the situation, know that your dream is based on your “Perception” of what is going on. Our fears amplify our personal projections of what might occur if we take action, and we pull back, doing nothing and berating ourselves for an assumed lack of courage. This is not reality. Approach the situation with love and communicate honestly, without excess emotion.

I hope you all find this information helpful!

Feel free to send in individual symbols and I will post translations and suggestions. This also helps me to build my Dream Dictionary!

Thank You!

~Char.

Are we Soul Mates?

2007-11-03T15:57:00.000-04:00

Hi. I've been thinking (and dreaming) alot lately about an old friend of mine who I have always regarded as a soul friend.

I still feel him near me, especially in my dreams. And I still feel very much connected to him. But in reality, he lives as far away from me as he could possibly be, on the other side of the world.

When we were friends and lived in the same place, he could hold my hand and there was this amazing energy between us. We used to lose ourselves in each others eyes for long beautiful joyous periods of time. Once he ran his fingers up my spine and I swear my whole body lit up in a thousand light bulbs. It was extraordinary.

My connection to him is so strong it feels eternal, it feels ancient, it feels like kinship. But sometimes I wonder if I chose the right path. My instincts told me at the time, that we weren't meant for each other 'that way' , that somehow it felt wrong, too intense. And somewhere inside still, my gut tells me that me and this friend had different paths to travel, different lessons to learn.

So why do I still dream of my friend so much? Am I really connecting with him through my dreams? And if so, should I bring it up with him?

Sadly, we are only in touch by email these days. And our conversations are nothing more than surface life updates. It would be terribly hard to tell him how much he means to me, especially as I never had the guts to before. And would there really be any point now anyway? I'd love to hear your opinion on this. Thanks.

Beenz

INTERPRETATION:

Dear Beenz,

I would like to touch the subject of Soul Recognition. This is the phenomenon that many people refer to as Love at First Sight and feeling like you know someone at a deeper level, and especially the way you describe. It's an amazing feeling, especially when chemistry is added to the mix.

Unfortunately, and I whimper as I say this, it doesn't mean you are meant to be with that person in a romantic alliance. "Soul Mates" is a very strong term that points to "destiny." But if you wind up apart, then you feel that you've been robbed or cheated of happiness, and that's not fair.

The problem here is your torn feelings, which is blocking you from enjoying your family 100%. Part of your mind is saying, "what if???" This can only drive you crazy. There are no mistakes, really, and you are with the person you need to be with.

Often, members of our spiritual "soul circle" come into our lives simply to reconnect or to help us open our hearts if we've shut them down in response to a hurtful situation. Sometimes these are the only ones who honestly can. Everyone else is so easy to reject; these people we cannot help but welcome into our hearts because the energy is coming from our soul DOWN to us. Most alliances borne in the intellect are often soon shredded and discarded. The soul attractions hold our attention. And this is okay. These are the experiences where we should be thankful to have had. They are deep, intimate and often indescribable. The caveat is that you cannot allow your ego to attach itself to an image or "potential." Some things require effort, as we here were encouraging you to do, but still others do not...not when it's meant to be.

At the very least, acknowledge this person as someone special. But don't allow the realm of fantasy so much power that it can stretch the experience to appear as a "loss." By any standards, it's surely a gain to have run into someone and recognized them at soul level. "Soul Mate" is a term that often leads to disappointment. While your husband has nothing to worry about, I worry that you will secretly wonder about what the past or future might have been, and will lose precious moments of Now, which is the true gift.

Either way, this person helped you along your path to your family. He is a blessing.

Love and Light,
Charlotte

DREAMER'S RESPONSE:

Hi,I took the plunge, bit the bullet and contacted my friend today. Finally I let him know that he has meant a great deal to me and thanked him for having such an enormous and positive influence on me, my life and my spiritual awakening. I am pleased, and relieved that I have finally let him know. It would have been awful if , God forbid, anything happened to either of us without him knowing how I felt. I am hoping that by being honest with him and with myself and by openly acknowledging him as an important connection in my life, I will be better able to move on and embrace my life 100% with my husband and family now.

What you said Charlotte about members of our soul circle coming into our lives just when we need them to help us recover from past hurts, totally hit the nail on the head. And I do believe this is why I have been feeling so compelled to 'share my difficult journey' with him at this time. I recently lost my father and had been experiencing a pervasive sense of loss in my relationship with him, even before his death, and now it was becoming so overwhelming, I was seeing and experiencing ALL of my great losses more acutely. Including of course, this one. I have also been finding it very difficult to let anyone really "in" to me, apart from the ones I'd met before, like my friend, and who I felt completely safe and at ease with.

Now, nervously, I await a response or no response from him at all, either way, I will soon find out if my instincts about him have been correct, or if I have simply goldplated my memory of an old friend and projected my ideas of an ideal fantasy mate onto a distant past. I know now, whatever happens, that I am one step, even three steps closer to being able to let my husband totally in and fully experience the love I know he feels for me the way I was meant to.

Thank you for giving me the courage to embrace my instincts and my heart and cope with a very difficult transition in my own acceptance of my self; False Self, Real Self, Spiritual Self and all.

Many Blessings, love, light and peace.

Beenzxx

Pulled Teeth

2007-11-03T15:53:00.000-04:00

I had a dream, more like a nightmare, all my teeth were pulled and false ones were put in. In the dream I was lying there getting them pulled and something went wrong and they had to put this big silver prong down my throat and I was gagging and it was painful. Finally I passed out. When I woke I had some kind of silver things that went down in my gums and were supposed to draw out some kind of infection I guess. At the same time I had these false teeth in but they went in one by one. The silver things kept coming out and some of the teeth and my mom would put them back in. I wasn't supposed to open my mouth very much and it was hard to talk without them coming out. Strange dream any clues?!

cherryrose

INTERPRETATION:

Hello, CherryRose27 :)

Your dream was shocking because your subconscious mind is trying to get your attention. These images shock us into remembering the dream in the hopes that its message will get through.

Teeth are a combination Universal/Personal symbol. Teeth in dreams represent a variety of emotions, reactions and scenarios. While a common dream symbol universally to all people, dreams involving the loss of or damage to teeth are personal to the dreamer and largely misunderstood. Some cultural myths say that it means a death will occur. While I would agree that many teeth dreams accompany actual deaths and losses, it is difficult to declare each and every teeth dream to be of a prophetic nature. Because many dreams of loosing teeth point to “letting go” of a person, situation or thing, it is easy to attach these images to a theme of death. There is more to consider, however, in analyzing a dream.

Teeth also represent the power of words spoken (like gossip or arguments, sentiments, personal boundaries, praise, etc.), our ability and confidence in making decisions, our sense of personal power, our personal effectiveness and our ability to break ideas, experiences and situations down for analysis, assimilation, digestion and release (the process necessary for Growth both physically and spiritually). Losing them demonstrates our feelings of ineffectiveness in any of these categories or in a specific area of our lives.

Here is a listing of Physical and Spiritual Correlations pertaining to Teeth Symbology:
Breaking Down of Food=Breaking down of ideas/experiences for Psychological Analysis and Understanding.
Assimilation/absorption=Emotionally Integrating the concepts in order to heighten conscious awareness and grow as a human being.
Digestion=Acceptance of Change, Retaining the beneficial aspects of the experience and rejecting the unhealthy aspects as it works through our (belief) system.
Elimination/Physical Release=Psychological and Emotional Forgiveness of the person/situation for forcing you to learn this lesson as a means of growth; Letting go of residual emotions and resentments and reclaiming peace of mind. (Problems with this last psychological phase will initiate toilet dreams.)

Let’s look at the “function” of the symbol(s). The use of teeth is the first step in the digestive process (spiritually, the acceptance of experiences/change). Teeth are held in by our gums and are used for tearing off the proper “bite-sized” amounts of food that we feel we can handle and breaking it down for digestion and retention of beneficial elements/nutrients for growth. When we equate these actions with Psycho-Spiritual concepts, we see the correlations between physical processes, psychological healing and spiritual growth. Often, when we are in situations where we need to let go of something and we resist, whether a relationship, an argument, a child moving away to college, a death, etc., we will often dream of losing teeth. Many people feel that teeth dreams have a lot to do with their personal appearance, but I disagree with most of the petty vanity aspects and prefer to take the topic to a deeper level. Teeth dreams often point to decisions and “how we appear to others as a result of the decisions we make,” be it insecure, stable, successful, foolish, that our decision-making process is flawed or that we think too little/too much of ourselves. Rather than focus consciously on what our needs are and backing up our determinations with strong decisions, we focus on others’ perceptions of us. Do I look foolish staying with this person or do I look foolish in breaking it off? Do people think I’m weak? These are some of the distractions our egos throw at us to discourage us from addressing our needs, trusting our hearts and having faith in our potential. The scenery of the dream will point to the area of your life in question. The manner in which the teeth were lost is key in that it demonstrates whether they were consciously or voluntarily “released” or if they were “taken” in some manner, making us feel forced to let something/someone go before we feel we are ready. Life scenarios such as these lead to a powerless, humiliating feeling. Our largest Source of Power is in our belief system; our primary Expression of Power is in our words. As teeth also facilitate speech, not expressing our truth may be seen in a dream depicting damage or the act of pulling them out ourselves.

There are thousands of variations to how our dreams depict the damage or loss of our teeth. When there is additional symbology in a teeth dream that is gory or shocking, it is our subconscious telling us to pay attention and address the issue. The area of your life that the dream points to will be supported by accompanying symbology.

Your mother is seen, pointing to a need to consider and apply your higher wisdom.Your teeth are pulled out without you knowing it, which might indicate that you are not "consciously" aware of your fears until you "take a good look at yourself" (mirror, where we make assessments of ourselves and our individuality) or it is brought to your attention by someone else in a situation. The silver concerns me. These seem to be alternative or false methods by which to keep the situation longer than is necessary, out of fear. Much work has been done to your mouth. I feel this to be that much effort has been exerted in order to keep a situation the way it is and prevent it from changing/evolving.I hope this helps. Only you can say what fits.

Love and Light,

~Char.

DREAMER’S RESPONSE:

Charlotte-Thank you so much for your insight! It is like you know what is going on in my life. Much is going on that I have no control over, and some of it is fear. With your insight I will look over some things and really concentrate on some issues brought at hand.

Again, thanks.
Cherryrose

beach with sweeping door!!???

2007-11-03T15:29:00.000-04:00

hello, charlotte,

i had a really strange dream the other night i was on a beach which i think was abroad, in the water at first were lots of boats with people in them i think they were from the army,collecting samples of water. next that had gone away we were back on the sand walking, lots of people were around the sea was a long way down, as i turned around behind i saw a massive door start sliding down the beach as if by magic it was about 4 times the size of my house (standard 2 up 2 down) it was made of metal and had some kind of markings on the front. it let of a sort of horn and swept down the beach into the sea at massive speed giving nobody a chance to get out the way, once it was gone there was all dead bodies sticking out the sand, i was frantic about where my sister was i ran to the other end of the beach and found her sitting happily with her friends, i went back only to realise i hadnt even considered where my 3 yr old daughter was i started screaming if anybody had seen her, they hadnt and i couldnt, i had an awful feeling how did i not notice first? i heard her voice and felt better but only as i was waking up and she had come in the bedroom.

it was a very strange dream especialy the big door any ideas what this could mean??

thanks
kate

THE INTERPRETATION:

Hi, Kate. What I do is take it line-by-line and interpret the "story" that is taking place. Only you can decide what fits, but I do hope this helps to provoke questions in your mind that will lead you to the answer. Please let me know your thoughts on the interpretation...which thoughts were hits and which were misses. If you have any questions please ask me anything. Hopefully, this will lead you to a happy new experience, as most of the symbology points to opportunities.

Here goes...You were on the beach, which is a symbolic place of the meeting between your conscious and unconcscious minds. I assume it is daytime, which means the issue the dream is attempting to illustrate is something you are aware of, as opposed to something you are not fully conscious of (nighttime). The beach is the edge where spirit (water) and the physical world (sand) meet. Generally, when you see a beach in your dream, there is an issue in your mind that is being addressed or needs to be resolved in order for you to move forward. The beach is a place to think, reflect and decide which direction you would like to take. It is a place of transitions from one level of conscious to a higher level, with new knowledge and wisdom and a clearer understanding of the past. Salt water is very healing and lends to the idea that there may be healing that is taking place within you. Like the tides, life has ebbs and flows. Often, it's difficult to let go and let the tide take you. Time is a major symbol connected to sand, as well. It may be that it is Time for you to let go of a fear. Only you know what's in your inner mind. The fact that the beach may have been abroad could mean that you have "distanced" yourself from the issue. There were lots of boats with people in them. Boats correspond to larger issues or transitions in your journey, spiritual voyages or experiences and exploring the realms of the unconscious, feeling that you missed an opportunity, a period of waiting, the act of carrying things (the past) great distances (like time), etc. The people you saw are assumed to be from the army, which is a symbol of discipline, organization, power and the relinquishment of one's will. It is associated with oneself in a lesser role for the greater good. I wonder if, perhaps, you are a young mother or if the conception of your daughter changed the direction of your life dramatically and you must come to peace with the sudden change. These army people, who are not easy on themselves but keep a stiff upper lip and keep marching to the rhythm of their lives, seemed to be "testing the water." This is very interesting. The water symbolizes your emotional/spiritual world, a new direction in life (creation of new projects, etc.), and is associated with the source of all life, sustenance, understanding or wisdom. There may be projects or an education you wanted to pursue or pick up where you left off, but are unsure as to the "safety" of the endeavor, as in "how would it disrupt your life and perhaps affect your daughter." I would be remiss not to also mention to you that since water is maternal/feminine and there is "testing" going on, that perhaps you have pregnancy on your mind?The army guys go away and you are back on the sand walking (moving forward in life). People in dreams represent aspects of ourselves. The number people here may represent a busy mind that constantly turns ideas over within it, thinking, planning, worrying, wondering, etc. In either case, there are different sides of you that are or must come together in agreement in order for you to move forward in your life without fear. You turn and see a massive door. Again we revisit the idea of opportunities, directions, new pathways to personal expression, unexplored regions of the self, transitions, barriers that need to be removed, etc. In this case the door appears to be closed, which is significant. Closed doors represent being closed off from opportunities, either through your own actions or the actions of another...circumstances beyond your control. It could also be a combination of the ending of one phase, relationship or era and the looking forward to a new beginning in a new direction. The door is outrageously proportioned and made of metal.

Metal corresponds to strength, endurance, resiliency, etc. In your case, I feel this personal symbol may represent your level of flexibility (stubbornness), emotional openness (closing yourself off to others for the sake of your daughter) or a similar scenario which only you can determine. I am merely trying to give you food for thought. I hope this information isn't coming across as disrespectful. With this intriguing combination of symbols, all of the elements are pointing to the same scenario. There is an opportunity or new direction your life is taking, that you are resisting, and it looms large and threatening to your peace of mind. You cannot outrun it, however, whatever it is, and I think it would be a very good transition for you and would open you to new experiences. I know you probably don't recollect what the markings were on the door, but trying to remember by meditating on the idea (if you're into that sort of thing) or trying to draw it might help. It sounds to me, though, that it is something you recognize deep in your subconscious and not necessarily consciously as an image in your waking life. It's a definite clue, though. There was a horn sound, which represents messages, warnings, a call to attention or a call to be mindful of one's words, praise for accomplishments, etc. Horns also sound a battle cry (army guys doing the testing to see if the waters are safe).The door moves so quickly that no one on the beach could escape. Again, the people on the beach represents aspects of you, your heart, mind and soul. Sometimes we see dead bodies when there is a thought, a belief, an attitude, a grudge, a hope or even the things we tell ourselves no longer serve us. As we grow over time (sand), old useless parts of us fall away. You become concerned about your sister and run to the other end of the beach. Your sister could either represent your actual sister in real life, but more likely the side of you that you see in her and in your relationship with her. What does your sister represent to you? Closeness? Family? Is she really smart, outgoing or courageous? What we think of that person is generally the representation. If she is a clear-headed type of person, you wouldn't want to lose that "side of you." Does that make sense? I know this is a lot, but your dream is very rich with symbology and I love how it all ties together.

You find your sister sitting happily with her friends. She is completely unaware of your panic, the frightening situation, the ominous feel of the scenario...she perceives an altogether different situation...she is happy and socializing...there is nothing wrong. In a word...she doesn't see the situation the same way you do. Her perception is much different. Often what this means is that you must let go of your perception of your situation as frightening or untrustworthy (the water testing) and step into the future with a sense of adventure rather than feeling afraid you will lose a part of yourself (dead bodies as a result of the door (opportunity) running them down). It occurs to you that your daughter was not the first thing to come to mind in a frightening situation. No one had or could see your daughter and you feel awful. Please do not feel guilty about this as it is merely an illustration that you are dealing with a rather recent issue, not so much an "inner child" issue. In a dream, when you do not worry about children it is generally pointing out that there is nothing to worry about, if that makes sense. Often, we worry against imagined scenarios...what if this or that happens. In this dream, you perceive a threat but your daughter is not the first thought in your mind. This is because the messages in dream such as this one, which I call Teaching Dreams, are about us. These types of dreams teach us about ourselves, how we are reacting to and coping with our circumstances, which of our beliefs about life or ourselves are false and need to be corrected or clarified, etc. Also, often the way we cope with life comes under question. In the dream you are trying to “save” the ones closest to you from something that is coming after you. I know in my life I have often set my personal goals aside in order to take care of others. Does this sound like something you do? If so, it may be an indication that you have look out for yourself first. Again, only you can determine what, if any of this, fits.

Coincidentally, your daughter enters your bedroom at the end of the dream, no doubt giving you a sense of relief even as you hear her voice as you awaken. I know this got long but your dream is great. I kept it shorter than it usually is because I am pressed for time. Please let me know if this helps. Your honest critique would be appreciated. Also, I am writing a book on dream interpretation and would like your permission to use it (anonymously if you like) in that or in an article. Thanks and I look forward to hearing from you soon!

Love and Light,
~Charlotte

DREAMER'S RESPONSE:
hi charlotte, thankyou so much for your reply it is amazing the way you have interpreted it with the way my life is at the moment, i ahve always been interested in dreams myself and am always very aware of them, this one i found particuarly strange.

you have really hit the nail on the head when you say i am facing a desicion which basicaly could change my life, untill now i have buried my head in the sand i suppose thinking things would change, and only now have i felt the strength to feel its time to make a change, in my heart i know or i think its what i want but i am scared of hurting others.

when i had my daughter i was 21 and your right i have struggled to adapt to the change in life she is nearly 4 and thinking about it i dont think i have fully accepted that that is it i cant change it, although i love her dearly there was so much more to do with life first!

the testing of the water is interesting because i have thought how if my relationship had of been good i would of loved to have given my daughter a sibling by now and i am sad that it probably wont happen now untill i am happy and settled.

the bit about a busy mind is so true, my mind is on constant fastforward worrying planning imagining etc...

the door... i think in a way yes oppurtunitys have been closed off because perhaps of my partner but then myself for allowing it???

i am resisting a new direction my life could take, and your right i dont think i can outrun it,

my sister wow! this bit is good too! she is 23 and has in the last 3 years built a business up which is about to be part sold for 3 million! i feel like havin gmy daughter the choices iv made i have missed out on all of this with her as i am sure we would of been in it together if things had of been different. also she is very strong willed and quite a closed book, i think i wish i was more like her be able to be harder on others, i feel i am too soft always putting others before me.

the more i read over your interpretation the more it fits, and actualy you have helped me feel more confident in making the right choices.

i dont mind if you use this dream, it was such a different and meaningful dream that id love to share it.

if you want anymore input or have any questions feel free to ask me, i have had many complex dreams that i often remember vividly.

i used to have lucid dreaming alot but not so much now.

thank you so much!
kate x